excluding dad?

[pally]

How close is too close?

I have been doing the 'usual' attachment parenting stuff for the last 16 months. She's my first baby so it's all a bit of an experiment but we are very close.

BUT she is the clingiest baby I know and won't go to her dad. He is feeling quite rejected. She went through a horrid period with separation anxiety and I can go to the toilet alone now which is really great but she is always on the look out for me leaving her.

Part of me envies the mums who have babies who started their baby at nursery early and are now happily settled. I am unable to leave her with a babysitter for a break and feel like she should be getting a bit more confident now after all the co-sleeping and constant breastfeeding. It would be nice to be able to say to dad that I've invested in all this attachment stuff and she's now coming in his direction as a confident toddler but it seems like me-and-her and him on the outside.

How did you get on with being a three-some?

[evey101]

well i didn't do any of this with dd1 and she was still clingy. where as ds could go to anyone dd1 wouldn't. don't think it has anything to do with how u bring them up. it wasn't until dd1 was about 3 that she went some where with out me and that was pre school.

dd2 on the other hand is constantly breastfed and carried by me alot and shares r bed some nights and she is the most settled baby i know. anyone cn put her to sleep and she will go to anyone quite happily. infact has days when all she wants is daddy.


i suppose what i am trying to say is that it comes down to the childs own personality so don't feel that they way u have done has been wrong or is too blame.

[possmum]

hi there, just wanted to say hang in there.

My beautiful son who is 30 months old has just been weened (i didnt want to but found i couldnt when i became pregnant) And has all of a sudden become very independant and likes to spend more time with daddy.... I am quite heart broken as i am still strongly attached.

Enjoy it while it lasts as they soon will become their own person and you'll wish you had them.

And it is ok to have time to yourself- its a great opportunity for dad (or grandparent) to spend quality time!!!!!