Is this normal??

[happy_mum]

Hi all,

Still BF my 14 month old daughter, and sick and tired of advice from family and friends to go cold turkey and cry it out etc! I dont mind bf her, but have to admit i worry all day long about the tiny amounts she is eating. It is so stressful!! Also, as more of her teeth have come through it is getting a bit painful! I know this sounds like i want to stop, but i dont. Just need some reassurance that other people are going thru the same thing! Also my lo wont sleep without being nursed and i am so worried she wont ever be able to sleep without me!! she hates being in the pushchair for longer than 15 mins and wont sit in the car seat without wailing through the whole journey- although music does help :) I dread taking her out at times, as she starts pulling at my top for a bf! Will she ever want to eat foods i wonder?? Sorry for going on and on, but had to let it out somewhere :( Also, are there any AP's here from Manchester??
Thank you for reading xx

[shazgh]

well don't listen to them or tell them to shut up, you are obviously still BFing because you want to, yes she will eat and sleep through the night and be more settled, but when is anyones guess. I bf my little one til she was 2 and naturally weaned, she didn't sleep through til she was 2.5, but I wasn't going to stop bfing just to get her to sleep through, she wanted reassurance she got it, it was horrendously tough, I cried alot, was shattered getting up for work, but I did it, I achieved what I set out to do.
I certainly didn't allow pulling at my top if out, at 14 months she can be distracted with a snack, so I say decide what you want to do and stick with it, I now have a very healthy content, girl who eats well, albeit never a huge appetite (but thats the point of BFing) who now sleeps through, It does get better

[happy_mum]

Hi, and thanks for replying! Yes it is very tough, but i am lucky in one way that i dont have to get up and go to work! So many people have said to me that if i dont stop feeding her she will still br bf when she is 6!!!! Also, she falls asleep at my nipple which i now know is a hard habit to break! Will she be able to sleep without the nipple ever? Thank you xx

[friendlybaby]

BF does not necessarily equal not sleeping through the night, and therefore there is no guarantee that she would be sleeping through if you were to stop. Friddy has been sleeping through since about 7 months old...thankfully, so it really does just depend on the child.

BF is only painful while their teeth are coming through. Once they are through it will not be any different to before teeth.

I always used to feed Friddy to sleep too, and then gradually he started to go to bed in a slightly more awake state until eventually he was happy to go to bed wide awake.

Things will change as you and she are ready for it.

[evey101]

i have to admit that the stories about the lack of sleep were one of the main reasons i wasn't goona bf. however ellie is now (almost 4 months) and she sleeps from 7-6 most days. she is exculsivly bf as she wont have a bottle. i have never fed her to sleep so as a result anyone can put her down to sleep. i think it all depends on what boudries u set at the start. ellie does pull at my top if we r out and i'm holding her and i wont always feed her as again i don't want he doing it when she's older.

i'm prtty confident that she will also be long term breast fed. and tbh i wouldn't want it any other way now. (if you look back at soem of the bfing threads from about a year ago i was adiment that i wasn't going to bf at all lol)

ignore your family it is ur choice. do u ever express so she can have that in a cup while you r out?

[happy_mum]

Hi Evey, jus thought i would clarify that when she pulls at my top when we're out and about i do not go and feed her straight away, its just that the pulling is a tad annoying lol. As regards to falling asleep on the nipple, i may sound really thick here but i had no idea that this was something i was doing wrong! I wish i had done a bit more reading on the subject BEFORE lol.

Friendly baby, i am relieved to hear that your baby has learnt to settle without being fed- this gives me some hope to.

thanks for reading xx

[evey101]

Hi Evey, jus thought i would clarify that when she pulls at my top when we're out and about i do not go and feed her straight away, its just that the pulling is a tad annoying lol. As regards to falling asleep on the nipple, i may sound really thick here but i had no idea that this was something i was doing wrong! I wish i had done a bit more reading on the subject BEFORE lol.

Friendly baby, i am relieved to hear that your baby has learnt to settle without being fed- this gives me some hope to.

thanks for reading xx

didn't think you would feed her when ever she did that as most mums wouldn't. i did see a lady once trying to try some shoes onand ended up giving in as the toddler just wouldn't stop pulling at her.


tbh i have always just put ellie down when she starts to fall asleep as i have 2 older kids to run around after and what feels like a million school runs a day.