A Grandmother at 39!!!!!!

[Sandi]

I have just been told by my eldest (who turns 20 tomorrow) that his 18 year old girlfriend is pregnant!!!!!:unsure:

He was terrified to tell me and burst into tears once he had but I think I am still in shock, I am just about to have my baby and now I am going to be a nan 6 months after that.

I am so sad for him because I was almost 20 when I had him and it is so hard and for the rest of your life. He has not even got a job or anything and is not a very mature 20 year old. This is his first proper girlfriend as well and he said she was supposed to be on the pill.

What can you do, you can't get mad and jump up and down as it is done and can't be changed now but they are so young and have their whole lives ahead of them. You can only be there for whatever support you can offer.

[xmisscx]

I was 19 when I had Eth and I did it without a partner, Im sure if they stick together and have support from family and friends they'll do just fine. Its is sad that its happened so young but its definately not the end of the world! You'll be a fab nanny! Good luck to you all xxx

[Sarah]

Oh dear :( I dread it with my kids. At the moment they both think that no sex before marriage is the way to go, but who knows what will happen the the hormones kick in.
Sarah x

[Jen]

They are not the first and definitely will not be the last, he might be a young 20 yr old but it really seems to me that you two have a great relationship. I am going to say congratulations; you will be a glamorous gran, as well as trendy Mum.

[Azzi]

Look on the bright side he waited till he was 20 , I think its great and you get to be a young grandma and just think how wonderful its going to be having your baby and your grandchild so close in age they will be able to play together

Sounds like your handling it well and not going mad at him what a wonderful mum you are to your kids .. well done

[Sandi]

Thanks everyone, my dh keeps calling me Grandma already. He says he can't possibly be called Grandad as he is only 38 so I said we will call him Grumps!!:laugh:

[Sarah]

This happened to us in a similar sort of way Sandi.
DH has a daughter from a previous relationship, he was only 17 when she was born. Needless to say it didn't work out with her mother.
We discovered when I was pregnant with our third child (I was 31 and DH was 36) that DH's daughter was also pregnant (she was 17)!
I wasn't very pleased as it meant that our child was going to be an uncle as soon as he was born, it made DH a grandad at 36 me and step nan!!
Anyway we've just discovered that she's now pregnant again!! Mind you she's 25 now and her own daughter is 9 so it's not quite as bad as when she was 17!!
Sarah x

[Bunny]

Sandi, if they are really in love they will cope well, and you can be the coolest granny around

[lizzie]

:clapping: :clapping: congrats i'm sure they will be good parents and you a good granny , i was a granny at 34 :wacko: , to my step-daughters sons and she was 19 when she had her first and all is well

20 is'nt that bad really :clapping:

[kat]

I was only 16 and a few month's away from my 17th birthday when i had my 1st :blusingan

Im sure everything will be fine....lot's of love and support for them both.

just think you'll be a hip very trendy glamorous "grandmother" :happy72:

[Bfglloyd]

:due: CONGRATULATIOS!!!:due:

[Serenity]

It sounds like you ahev agood relationship with them and that will count for loads. It must have been a shock but it sounds like you are handling it well.
Just think, you'll be a sure winner in all those glamorous granny competitions.

[trai]

Congratulations. 20's not so bad. At least he came and told you. And it will be lovely for your child to have your grandchild to play with.

[bikemad]

I was 19 when I had Eth and I did it without a partner, Im sure if they stick together and have support from family and friends they'll do just fine. Its is sad that its happened so young but its definately not the end of the world! You'll be a fab nanny! Good luck to you all xxx

I was 23 1/2 n on my own aswel n aint done bad.

I agree tho if they stick at it together n have plenty of support im sure things will work out fine.

[Sarah]

Yeah but the girl is only 18, I'm sure it will be ok but it's a hard road to travel as those of you who have done it know only too well.
Sarah x

[lisa1980]

i agree with the others with loads of love and support they will be great parents and u will be a glamourous and trendy grandma :happy72:

[weaselgirl]

Like you said it's happened and there's no going back now.Just think you'll have two babies to coo over and hopefully they will grow to be great playmates.I think it says a lot for your relationship with your son that he told you,you sound like a great mum and i'm sure you will be a fab nanny.

My auntie is 34 (2 years older than me.) and already she's a great aunt to five children.I joke with her that she's the most glamorous great auntie i know.She looks exactly like Sharon Osbourne, apart from she's about four stone heavier!

[Ninsi]

My grandma was 365 (almost 36) when my mum had me, now at 65 she will be a great grandma to my sisters baby ;)

[Macaroni]

It mustve been a shock Sandi!

Have you thought about getting together with the gf's parents to talk things through and give a united support front?

[kathyhinsh]

Well, congratulations-Grannie!
I'm sure ur doing the right thing by not going off the deep end, after all it wasnt a planned :preggo: & the more u think about it, I hope u'll get more excited about it...& hopefully it'll bring u all closer 2gether, & with ur new baby on the way, it will probably help them as well.

[Oumaymah]

Don't worry I'm sure everything will be fine, a friend of mine has just become a grandmother 2 days ago and is the same age as you, her daughter is 19, they are all over the moon and the family is so supportive so I'm sure everything will be ok

[essexgirl]

i agree with other your be a great grannie and being so young ur'll be able to enjoy ur first grand child more congratulations hope everything works out:happy72:

[LisaPink]

I agree with all the others, it'll be fine, with your support. Like you saud it's happened, theres nothing you can do to change it, so make the best of the situation. Congrats to both you, your son & his gf, wishing you all the luck in the world.

[storm35]

Aww dear, dont knwo what to say, all i can say is, he has a great mum to help him through it all, good luck to you all.
Chrisxx

[inchtwinkle]

congratulations, not on only becoming a grannie, but on raising a good respectful, child, and i think he is very mature, because he came and told you, and he's not running away, that at least should be the best thing, it shows you have raised a good decent child, who isn't going to run away from his responsabilities (sp), and he came and told you instead of you finding out some other way, i feel thats very mature for a 20 yr old, let alone a 30 yr old, who would run, and leave everything, like everyone said you will be a glamour grannie, and be the one they come running to when things get them down, and the cool nan who takes them out to fun places, you may be feeling slightly dazed by the news, i think in all fairnes anyone would, but enjoy it, be greatful your not to old to enjoy the babies life, and with all the hand me downs you will have for them its helping them out even more ""cutey""b

[cheryl2006]

im 18 but i was only 17 wen i had lewis i had my reasons but didnt think i was able to cope but i have n im findin motherhood great good luck:clapping:

[Girlzmum]

Congratulations! Most of the women in my family were grannys before they turned 40 (except my mum!!!! She told me she was disapointed!!!!) My mum was 46 when my sister had her twins and it's great to have a young grandmother, they have so much more energy. My in laws are in their 60's and can't keep up with my toddler at all.
Enjoy bringing up your new baby and grandchild together - it'll be a wonderful time for you.

[coco]

My Dad was a Grumpy Gramps and I was 22 when I had my first lol.

congratulations - I think its great your son is being so responsible.

L xx