Poor Nan!!!!

[bikemad]

My nan is 91 years old n has got cancer in her face-like a cancerous growth.

Well she is one of those pepole who hates fuss so all the family only found out this evening that she had surgery the other day on it!!!!!But the scar on her face has turned sceptic now so she has to go back in tomorow.They also dont know if she wil need chemo.

Im worried silly tbh cos at 91 I cant see her copeing with chemo!!!

And then 5mins ago mil rang-her sister has a lump in her breast n has know ages but didnt want any fuss but is in hospital tomorow!!!!!!!!

A It is scarey n im worrie bout both

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B Why on earth didnt either of them say something-dont know but maybe there could have been something I could have done to help.

[lizzie]

:grouphug: oh bm so sorry , some people find it easyier to cope if family don't know , i know that does'nt help you or the family any but some times easyier for the person , hope there both ok

[mum_2_jamie]

dont know what to say but sendin you love""cutey""b

[inchtwinkle]

oh hunni, i don't know what to say, some women especially nans always like to be in control iykwim, they are the ones to fuss and always have to have it like that, i am sorry though and all our love is with you, :wub:

[bikemad]

Thanx girls-just feel helpless sat here itms-wish there was something I could do.

Gonna ring my nans tomorow evening to get an update on how it goes in the day at the hospital.:crossfing

[trai]

:grouphug: I hope that they are both ok. I know it's not much help but my nan had a cancerous growth on her arm before christmas and she didn't tell us until after she'd had it removed and we saw the dressing on her arm. On the good side it hadn't spread and she didn't need chemo so:crossfing it's the same for your nan.
I think that it's a generation thing that they don't want to bother anyone and want to cope on their own.

[bikemad]

Thanx Trai.

It is horrible at any age but she is soooooo old bless her.

Gonna ring this evening round tea time cos she meant to be home then.:crossfing

[xmisscx]

awww sorry to hear that Em, hope today goes well, keep us updated. thinking of you all and keeping my fingers crossed xxx

[trai]

That's how we felt too. It seems too awful that they have things when they're so old. It's a similar feeling to when the kids are hurt or sick you want to take it for them.

[kathyhinsh]

""cutey""b Em:crossfing hun

[kathyhinsh]

""cutey""b Em:crossfing hun

[Katiequiggle]

Thinking of you all. People cope with things in different ways don't they. I know that if anythings bothering me I have to tell people, like my ankle lol. but some people deal better by keeping things to themselves. My Nan was the same, she was 89 when she died a few years ago but for as long as I can remember she used to tell us that she didn't want to be any bother to anyone and just wanted to die in her sleep and not be a trouble to anyone etc etc, she had a stroke in the end so in fact did die in her sleep as she never really came out of it, bless her.

At least now that you do know you can support her and give her loads of extra attention and cuddles etc.

Hope everything goes well, give her a big hug from all of us.

Love Kate

[Azzi]

I've found that a lot that people don't want to make a fuss so don't tell anyone unless they really have to , hope all goes well

[bikemad]

cryingsmil There is no answer at my nans(well too late now but ykwim) n my mam is working n dad out so still trying to get the latest on my nan.

Thanx for all the kind words-as soon as I can get hold of someone n get the latest ill feel a lot better.

[weaselgirl]

Sorry i missed this.Older people can be sooo stubborn sometimes.I bet your nan was trying to protect you all so you wouldnt worry.:crossfing its good news.

[bikemad]

Got hold of my nan today.

She went back down to the hospital n they took swabs etc-she has an antibiotic spray for the face n also antibiotics to take but the infection is still there but they said they wil see if antibiotics work n she has a check up Friday.

Is it me or do they not give a monkeys when it comes to the elderly!!!2006argh

[mum-to-nia]

I know you feel like they are not doing anything but at 91 there is very little they will do for her cancer. She could be offered oral chemo, but i would tell my nan not to have it if i was in your situation. I see elserly people with cancer every day where i work, and quite often the chemo they give them will kill them! At that age, their bodies cannot cope with the intensity of it, oral chemo is milder than iv, but it is still destrying cells in your body..... thats its job.

Just be there for her. You're very lucky to still have your nan at 91 yrs of age, she must be a strong lady!

[bikemad]

Thanx-it is hard but tbh I thought that too-at her age I dont think she would have a cats chance to get thru any chemo.

[weaselgirl]

I have to say i agree with Mum-to-Nia.:yes:

But, i also agree with you BM, and often get really frustrated with the care medical/surgical care that is given to the elderly.