'Stay at Home mums Vs Working parents'

[Administrator]

Bella magazine is looking for mums who stay at home and mums who work to take part in an article debating the issue. Do you have strong opinions on one side or the other? We would like to interview mums on the telephone, and will pay generously for your time and trouble.

If you are interested in taking part please email: contactshannonkyle@googlemail.com

[smirnoff]

anyone done this?

[Ravenfire]

Are you going to do it?

[smirnoff]

not sure.. have emailed for more info!

[duck_egg]

I have emailed too, not sure if she wants people with strong views for either side as I'm on the fence but have plenty of experience as to how I feel personally about having to back to full time work as a single parent....

[duck_egg]

Just spoke to her and she's lovely! She is keeping my details on file and will ring back if she needs me!

[moomum]

I don't think I feel strongly enough either way, though I do remember meeting a mum who was going back to work as soon as she could so they could pay off the loan on their second car, and I wondered why they had bothered to have kids! The car seemed more important to them.

[duck_egg]

My personal views and also my experience is that Mum's should stay home (where possible) until at least pre-school age. I personally feel *tries not to offend* that nobody could care for your children the way you would, and that it's our job to give them everything they need. I am going to have to use childcare before and after school soon and I'm dreading it, I want to be the one to see them into and out of school, cook their tea, make their meals etc....they're not little for long and before you know it they've grown up and don't need you anymore!! I disagree with sending small babies to nurseries and childminders, I think the first couple of years especially are so important and I know I would look back and regret it all.....if it meant that the nice house and car had to be downsized for a few years then so be it, you can always rebuy them!!

[moomum]

I mostly agree with you there but I think it is quite good for children to be away from their parents occasionally, and also very very good for them to play with other children, they get that at nurseries and with childminders. And although generally I am a WAHM I need space and time off!

[shazgh]

did she say what she was looking for as I am a working mum 'for many reasons' I feel strongly about all the reasons I have to and also choose to work, but I don't feel strongly about condemning anyone who chooses to do differently, so don't know if its worth contacting her, what do you think?

[duck_egg]

did she say what she was looking for as I am a working mum 'for many reasons' I feel strongly about all the reasons I have to and also choose to work, but I don't feel strongly about condemning anyone who chooses to do differently, so don't know if its worth contacting her, what do you think?

i think she was after strong view for aither side (maybe a bit controversial...it is a magazine and it needs to be interesting I suppose!) she didn't say exactly what she wanted though but it's worth it though, it may earn you a few pennies!!!

[duck_egg]

I mostly agree with you there but I think it is quite good for children to be away from their parents occasionally, and also very very good for them to play with other children, they get that at nurseries and with childminders. And although generally I am a WAHM I need space and time off!

I agree with you there, interaction with children the same age is always good, I generally used to go to mum's and tots groups for that though. My girls did go to a playgroup for a couple of hours a week when they were 2 1/2 and the free time was very welcome!!

[shazgh]

Just emailed her:happy72:

[Ravenfire]

If you are unsure then just email

[*Yvonne*]

My personal views and also my experience is that Mum's should stay home (where possible) until at least pre-school age. I personally feel *tries not to offend* that nobody could care for your children the way you would, and that it's our job to give them everything they need. I am going to have to use childcare before and after school soon and I'm dreading it, I want to be the one to see them into and out of school, cook their tea, make their meals etc....they're not little for long and before you know it they've grown up and don't need you anymore!! I disagree with sending small babies to nurseries and childminders, I think the first couple of years especially are so important and I know I would look back and regret it all.....if it meant that the nice house and car had to be downsized for a few years then so be it, you can always rebuy them!!


My thoughts exactly, that's why I won't work whilst Lauren is still so little. She goes to a 'Parents & Toddler' once a week, a play centre once a week with 2 other LO's the same age (obviously there is others there too), and many other places where LO's go so she gets plenty of interaction with others her age without needing a nursery or childminder.

[Rainbowwitch]

Personally Im on the fence - a mum/woman should do what she thinks is best for her child/family, we should not look down on any woman who chooses to either stay at home or go to work, we are all different (boring world if we wasnt)

I went back to work after my maternity leave with eldest son (my mum looked after him), but with second child I couldnt bear to leave him - so hubby went back to work (he had given up work when my mum couldnt cope with eldest son) and I gave up work to look after the children

[missymum22]

i'm a full time working mum and my OH is a SAHD, this works brilliant for us and we are better off in more than just the cash sense, the boys love having their dad at home, and where as i'm career minded and love the stress of work and thrive off a challenge, OH would work to pay the bills. so its a win win situation in our house. tbh i think i spoil the boys at the weekend though because i do feel guilty for leaving them, BUT they wouldnt have the freedom and choices and childhood holidays if i wasnt working.....may drop her an email!

[Al1x]

I'm a bit on the fence about this as well... i know i wouldn't work if I didn't have to but DP doesn't earn enough to pay our mortgage and food etc.. there is no point moving as renting is just as expensive.

[Headbanging Vonnie]

Only just read this. I think I will email her I wonder if she would be interested in someone who works funny hours like me.

[Ravenfire]

Just a reminder please, this isn't in the debate section. If anyone does want to debate this can you start a thread in that section. Thanks.

[sadie29]

i personall y have worked with my son but i crack up being at home, my son has never missed out on anything and i always have plenty time to spend with him xx

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