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nikki_nakki_noodle

05-01-2006, 11:27 AM

sbroadley

05-01-2006, 11:37 AM

Nikki, As to when to tell your daughter.. A hard one I suppose. Our son is 2 and half and we have been telling him occasionally that mummy has a baby in her, and he feels her (small at present) bump. We went for the first scan last week and when the screen came up he lit up with joy, pointed to the scan and said "baby". He loved the scan prints we took home as well.

I suppose that as we gradually got him to understand about the baby in his mum, he has come to accept it. Each child would be different I suppose, but I would say the earlier the better.

I expect I will come across more dads as time passes, unfortunately we dont have internet access at home yet so my partner can't access all the baby sites herself, so I do from work. I suppose when I get the internet at home she will be logging on to all sorts of weird sites!!!!

kimmie

05-01-2006, 11:37 AM

Welcome to the site nice to have you here. Kim

Netty

05-01-2006, 11:39 AM

Hello Spencer and Nikki and welcome to the group.

Congratulations on your pregnancy Nikki, what is your due date?

I have 2 kids - ds is 6 and dd, 4.

weaselgirl

05-01-2006, 12:00 PM

:Hello2: Spencer ( and Nikki) and welcome to the group.

I'm Jo, mum to ds 5, and dd 2 and we live in Bristol with dh.

sbroadley

05-01-2006, 12:10 PM

Hi again all. Nice to know there are nice people out there.
I will show my ignorance now but can someone please explain what ds dd dh mc mean !!!!!
I think ds - son, dd - daughter, dh - husband ??? but why the d?

One reason why I haven't posted on here previously in mainly because I am male and I worry that you mums will be suspicious of my being on a "mums" site!!!! I only want to find out hints about how to bring up my son, treat my fiancee and enter competitions. One of the best ways to find out things is to read people's experiences on message boards -

Netty

05-01-2006, 12:21 PM

Hi, you are very welcome to join in - just be warned not to let the boss catch you (unless you are the boss, of course!)

Yup d = dear or darling - there is a list of abreviations somewhere - will find a link for you.

Netty

05-01-2006, 12:22 PM

Here you are ...

http://www.mumszone.co.uk/forums/showthread.php?t=3917

trai

05-01-2006, 12:30 PM

Hi Spencer welcome to the site. I have a ds 7 and dd 4 and we live in Leics with dh.

sbroadley

05-01-2006, 12:38 PM

Thanks Netty I have printed them off - I expect I will get used to them quite quick.

Hi Trai, thanks for the welcome.

Let's try and use some of these abbreviations then !!!!

I have a ds and df at home who is pg. My ds is 2 and half and df due 10th Julyish.

DF wasn't listed but I thought "Dear Fiancee" was a better one than OH !!!!

Tinkabell

05-01-2006, 12:41 PM

Hi Spencer and Nikki

I am Kerri a SAHM to 3 girls.

Nikki - i bought a childrens book about mummy having a baby and bringing baby home, this helped both times and I also told the children first and let them have the fun of telling grandparents, aunties and friends - they felt very special telling everyone they were going to be big sisters. Also, when baby was born when they visited at the hosp, they had special big sister cards and presents from the new baby. Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck.

Netty

05-01-2006, 12:42 PM

Ok, I'll add that one to the list then! DF can also be dear friend. BF =best friend or boy friend - hope you don't need to use the latter one though!

madmoo75

05-01-2006, 12:55 PM

Hi Spencer

I'm Jo i'm fairly new to this site. i have 2 ds's 3 yrs and 21mths oh and of course a dh Darren

i've currently broken my foot s am having a great time surfing the net with nothing much else to do.

It's nice to see a Dad on here as we don't get many on any of the sites, i normally take my 21mth to the toddler groups and you don't get many dads go to them either, maybe the odd one or two at each group but not many

Do you go to any??

look forward to chatting to you soon

jo
:sign16:

sbroadley

05-01-2006, 01:08 PM

Hi Jo
I do go sometimes to the "parent and toddler" group, but it is always referred to as the "mother and toddler" group - very off-putting. I know of 1 other father who goes as well occasionally and we both think it is quite daunting being with all those mothers !!!!
It does seem as though society expects fathers to work and mothers to do things like school, doctors, nursery, toddler groups, etc.. I do work but have a very flexible working pattern (sometimes at home working as well) as does my friend who also goes - all the other fathers work and can't make it I am lead to believe so it is no surprise you don't find many fathers.
Also we don't tend to chat and gossip (!!!) in the same way as women ...

madmoo75

05-01-2006, 01:21 PM

oh i don't know some of you men can put women to shame with the chatting. The Dads that i know who go to the group seem to get on well with most of the women, i hate it when there are groups of women that are really clingy and ignore others.

i try to make everyone welcome and i find it very intersting to see things from a dads side.

We always said that it depended on who was earning the best salary to who would work and who would stay at home with the kids

i know that darren woldn't take the kids to toddlers as he thinks its all women sitting around gassing

jo

kathyhinsh

05-01-2006, 02:34 PM

http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b117/kathyhinsh/love%20n%20hugs%20n%20welcome/b_HI_OD.gif Spencer & Nikki & :sign16:
I'm kathy & I live near portsmouth with my dh & ss 19yrs, dd 11yrs & ds 8yrs.
Look forward 2 chatting 2 u both soon.

sbroadley

05-01-2006, 03:40 PM

Jo - maybe the problem is that dads like chatting about diff things - sport, current affairs, etc; while women chat about neighbours, nappies etc - or am I being sexist here!!!!

I don't think the women are clingy in the groups just it's hard to start up converstaions with women even if toddler groups without being thought of as "chatting up" people or vice versa !!!!

We are after all different people (Mars/Venus springs to mind but....) - It is hard, it took me months to post something on this website after drifting through it. I do think dads get a raw deal though!!!

Kathy - hiya - luv to chat anytime nice to know people are nice on here!!!! and will chat to a dad.

inchtwinkle

05-01-2006, 04:20 PM

hi spencer, great name (my maiden name :happy72: ), you will love it here, don't worry about whatwe talk about, because its everything, and yes a little nappy and neighbours but hey, my dh always comes home asking what he's missed in neighbours and doctors lol,

i'm jo, married to bob and have 2 kids jake who 2 and jessie whos 1, and i live in southampton

jump in you will have so much fun, :clapping:

Girlzmum

05-01-2006, 05:27 PM

Hi and welcome to the site Spencer and Nikki!

I'm Colette and I'm expecting my 2nd any day now, my dd is 2 1/2. Just talking about books, we got madam 'I Want A Sister' by Tony Ross, it's about the little princess who's told that there's a baby on the way and announces she wants a sister, everyone tells her that it might be a brother but she doesn't want a brother. Madam really enjoys it (We also got her a few of the other books and she loves them all!)
I've been very lucky that my friend and I have been pregnant at the same time with both this and my last pregnancy (she's had one in between though) there's 7 weeks between our eldest and her youngest was born 2 weeks ago so we took her over to see them all, her eldest was very keen to tell us that the baby had come out of mummys tummy and show him off to us all so think madam has a much better idea that a baby is coming soon.
Another thing I'd recommend is taking them along to doctors appointments (I'm having shared care with my hospital and gp) I've taken madam along to all of my gp appointments (waiting is too much in the hospital) and she loves hearing the baby's heartbeat, I think that it helps her to feel involved, she then gets to go home and phone daddy to tell him about the noise the baby makes!
Hopefully it won't be too long before I get to finally introduce madam to the baby so I'll let you know how that goees!!!

essexgirl

05-01-2006, 07:36 PM

hi spencer and nikki im linda from peterborough mum to dd 7:welcomebl

bikemad

05-01-2006, 08:49 PM

Hi n welcome.Im a sahm to ds age 6 n have been with my dp for 4 years and we live in Wales.

I break the mold-I hate shopping but love photography and motorsport esp motorbikes.:laugh:

storm35

06-01-2006, 01:55 PM

Hiya and welcome aboard
Cxx

sbroadley

06-01-2006, 03:36 PM

Well storm35 my DF is Scottish - that's handy as I can't understand about a quarter of what she says - but then she's got selective deafness.
Anyone else got problems understanding their partners or deafness in them ????

I think selective deafness is a woman thing but am I being too chauvanistic - sorry if i am.

storm35

06-01-2006, 03:44 PM

Ohhhhhhhhh chauvinistic or what lol, glad to hear there are soem scots in here, i feel all alone in here on my own lol.
Cxxx

sbroadley

06-01-2006, 03:53 PM

madmoo75

06-01-2006, 04:41 PM

Where abouts in Yorkshire you from then?? i was a yorkshire lass but i live in Oxfordshire now

inchtwinkle

06-01-2006, 04:55 PM

I'm Yorkshire, but live in the South...I still cant understand Scot a lot of the time and my dad's half Scottish!!!!

I'm not really chauvenistic, just intrigued at why my fiancee (DF) doesn't hear me a lot of the time especially when it suits her.........
see my dh has selective hearing, esp when the telly is on, or when we are doing the shopping, :ac39:
i think everyone has this problem, when our oh boars us to death :hysterica :hysterica

Jen

06-01-2006, 09:06 PM

hi spencer, Its great to have a guy posting.
I have two children a boy who is 15 and a girl 8.
I along with a friend own and run a pre-school and one afternoon a week we run a Parent and toddler group (we dont call it mother and toddler) we love it when Although it is predominantly mums, we do get a few Dads too. (shame there is not more Dads like you who abviously take an active part in their childrens lives)
although I do know that it is not always possible fro dads to be available.
anyway welcome to the site.

emap

06-01-2006, 09:34 PM

Thank god I am not the only one!!!!! OH is always staring at the TV and I always think he really has hearing problems!!!!! He is like the dog though, iif I open a packet of crisps in another room he hears!!!!!!!

babybiz

07-01-2006, 10:35 AM

Hi Spencer :) Great thread you started here it was fun to read! I'm Tasha, I'm definately a mum ;) And I've got DH Warren and four kiddies aged 6,4,2 and 7mths. Good to see a dad posting, my other half would be far too embarrassed so thumbs up to you!

BTW he has tv syndrome too, if he's in a room with it I will never win the attention battle. I could be telling him the house is burning down around his ears but if I don't say it quick enough he'll be watching the telly before it computes in his wee brain ;) He has selective hearing too so nope not a woman thing - a partner thing :hysterica

Tashxx

mum_2_jamie

07-01-2006, 10:53 AM

hi and welcome spencer im naomi live with my df and myds whos17 months my df has problems understanding both me and ds at times as we are both profoundly deaf so sign lots i can talk but if im angry sad or tired and not concentrating properly he finds it hard to understand me talk and ds has just learnt to say mummummum

sbroadley

09-01-2006, 11:42 AM

Hi all, thanks for the messages. I am not on the internet over the weekends, so sorry if any of you think I was ignoring you.

To answer madmoo75 - I originally come from Baildon, Shipley just north of Bradford - right on the edge of the moors.

For the various ones who suggest selective hearing is also a man-thing I suppose so, but as I can't understand some of what my Scottish df says, I can get away with just going "mm" "yeh" most of the time.

I suppose us men are a bit of telly hoggers - especially where sport is concerned - me I like the cricket, rugby, motorsport (including the bikes bikemad) and news channels, but df hates them. My argument is that as I'm at work a lot of the time, she can watch all those yucky soaps when I'm not there, so they are not allowed when I am there!!!! I will be given some roastings for this from many of you I bet.

One nice thing is that Dale, our 2-year old ds, seems to keep pinching the remote control off his mum says it's dady's and gives it to me!!!!!! No I didn't train him to do that, but I suppose I could train him to get me a beer out of the fridge!!!!!

Spencer

lisa1980

09-01-2006, 12:12 PM

hi spencer im lisa mum to hollie 4 going on 40 we live in cumbria

nice to see a dad on here :welcomebl

hazybabe

11-01-2006, 10:19 AM

Hi spencer, Welcome to the forum :) Im from SOuth Wales and got married just over a year ago, no kids as yet :)

Daffs

11-01-2006, 10:24 AM

Hello Spencer! Welcome to Mumszone! :sign16:

It's very nice to have a few dads joining! I hope you will like it here :crossfing :clapping:

Daffs

11-01-2006, 10:27 AM

hi Spencer,
I'm new here too. I am a mum though! Im currently pregnant with my second baby and desperate to talk to other parents who have more than one child. For instance when do i tell my daughter she is going to have a sibling? She is 3, and desperate for a sister!

Nikki

Hi Nikki, Welcome to Mumszone! ""cutey""b

I have 2 children and we told Ben (who was 4 at the time) quite early as I was like a bottle of pop and couldn't keep a secret. I think we did wait until the first scan though (just to make sure I wasn't imagining it, iyswim?)

Congratulations! :D

whitty999

12-01-2006, 10:16 PM

Welcome to all new members,Don't get a lot of time to post but often have a quick read,Welcome to all newbies.:sign16: :sign16: :sign16:

madmoo75

18-01-2006, 05:09 PM

Hello all again, sorry been out of it a while.

I used to live on the borders of Sheffield and Barnsley, i know a little of Bradford but not a lot.

Oh an YES you can train them to get a beer out of the fridge, when my dh had his beer fridge in the room with the computer (pre the office) he used to ask my young man to get him beer and he always used to (he's 3) our friends found it quite funny.

take care

jo