So hacked off!!!

[Emsickle]

I wasn't going to post, but I'm winding myself up and its making me so angry that I'm just going to type it all down and get it out of my system.

Sat I got the phone call to say I'd won a photo shoot, which was booked for today. Sat pm, I was informed by DH that SIL was coming down for the first time in 6yrs top visit (she was going to visit her son in Swindon and then popping down to Devon on her way back). I never thought it would happen as its a hefty diversion on the way back to Wales really, but still.

So today, I've got up, tidied the house from top to bottom, hoovered again (I did right through yesterday already), opened all the windows, sorted out DH's cr@p, finished off little bits of decorating that he was sposed to have done ages ago, etc etc, which some of you may think, well, its just normal housework really, but with the four boys, its sometimes hard to do these things every day.

Anyway, all this cos her highness whose house is spotless and the most wonderful place to be etc (her boys have left home so is it surprising its spotless?!), is supposed to be visiting.

I've just had a phone call from DH to say she isn't coming now cos BIL has "hurt his back" which even DH doesn't believe. (Why they can't just say, oh its a bit far after going to Swindon, I really don't know)

So I said, that I didn't think for a minute that they would come down here as they haven't bothered for the past 6 years so why should they now. They're always asking when we are all going up there etc, which is such a blooming palava tbh not just with taking everything that we need to, but because she has such expensive tastes, I worry that the boys are liable to break something, plus me and the boys just don't feel comfy there for that fact.

So he's just had a go at me - how can I complain when I never take the boys up there and bother myself, I never phone her, I don't even know her address etc!!! How I should give myself a chufty badge for doing the tidying and it was about time that I did something for a change rather than sitting on my ar.......backside doing nowt all day, which is what I normally do!

He's been up to Wales with work at least once a month these last few months and always pops in to see her, so never wants to go there and apart from anything else, he's always f...bloody working anyway so when he has days off, its "nice" to actually spend a bit of time together.

When am I sposed to go there on my own?! During the week when I've got to leave at 9.30/10 cos of school drop off, and then be back by 3/3.30 for coming home, its an hour and half at least each way, so I'm sposed to do that by myself for what...an hours visit??? Am I being unreasonable or what is the blimming point?!

Sorry, its just really hurt me that DH who has been pretty good the past few weeks has yet again turned into a complete ar$e who just wants to turn everything around into my fault, as per bliming usual. Put me in a "great" mood for the rest of the day.

[smirnoff]

oh hunni! I would be livid! What an arse!
Huge hugs hunni..

[sparklekitty]

OMG, you said she wouldnt turn up didnt you! You are not being unreasonable! Grrr at him again!!!!!!:angry-smi123:angry-smi123, he makes me so mad the way he is with you!

Huge hugs from me :kisshands:

[Emsickle]

oh hunni! I would be livid! What an arse!
Huge hugs hunni..

I dunno whats worse Suzi - him having a go at me saying I can't complain when I don't go up there, or him saying that I do nothing round the house, clean, cook, etc, when ALL bill funds, ALL clothing funds, ALL food funds and basically ALL monies to do with the house, come out of my bank account, I hoover, I clean, I cook, I sort the boys out, I put them to bed, I feed them - and I do sodding everything round here, but go out to work!

Arrgggghhhhhh!!

[sparklekitty]

I dunno whats worse Suzi - him having a go at me saying I can't complain when I don't go up there, or him saying that I do nothing round the house, clean, cook, etc, when ALL bill funds, ALL clothing funds, ALL food funds and basically ALL monies to do with the house, come out of my bank account, I hoover, I clean, I cook, I sort the boys out, I put them to bed, I feed them - and I do sodding everything round here, but go out to work!

Arrgggghhhhhh!!


but you DO work ems AND do the house and sort the boys!

:kisshands:

[Emsickle]

OMG, you said she wouldnt turn up didnt you! You are not being unreasonable! Grrr at him again!!!!!!:angry-smi123:angry-smi123, he makes me so mad the way he is with you!

Huge hugs from me :kisshands:

I told ya didn't I! I knew she wouldn't! I had his niece phone me yesterday and ask if P*** lived here (erm, well, yes, I am his wife, and this is supposed to be his home!), had his best mate phone him on his mobile asking if it was ok to give his ex-g/f his mobile number and now he's turning round his sister not coming down to visit on to me.

[Emsickle]

but you DO work ems AND do the house and sort the boys!

:kisshands:

Oh even me putting all of the invoices on yesterday wasn't enough! Two months worth and I couldn't possibly have done it right as we weren't owed "enough" money, which is cr@p cos I've been chasing it all, so we're getting pretty up to date with monies owed and our cashflow.

But noooooo, Ems does nothing all day.

God I am so angry...

[Katiequiggle]

Sending you hugs Emma.

[smirnoff]

Ems you are worth so much more than him.. he is just a w**ker..

[Daffs]

He'd know how much you did if you buggered off for a day or two! I'd be tempted, rotten sod! :kisshands:

[lizzie]

*hugs* gawd i'd be well p***** with him , so on strike then he can see how much you do

[duck_egg]

Hun, get yourself and the boys in the car and go out for the day, leave it to him for once and he'd soon realise how much you do!!! Funnily enough, my ex has fallen to bits with me not there, no bills have been paid, the house is a mess......!! Funny how I used to do bugger all too :cheesy:

Go and treat yourself hun, or if you really want to then head for the midlands and come and stay with me gd12

[Jen]

Yp I would be blood annoyed too...as already been said ..get out for the day and have a treat.

[Headbanging Vonnie]

I don't know what it is with men. They think because they go out to work and we don't or maybe we don't work as long hours, that we sit on our backsides doing nothing. OK I'm no domestic goddess and my house is by no means spotless but if I didn't do any of it the place would be swimming in filth, no-one would have any clothes/uniform/shirts to wear, everyone would stink, we'd have no plates to eat from etc etc.

Hugs to you Ems.:kisshands: :kisshands: :kisshands:

[Bunny]

*hugs* Emma, I'll be back on here later if you want to talk

[CarerQuie]

:tcwozerekThe man is delusional and you're a saint for putting up with it.xx

[Seren]

:tcwozerekThe man is delusional and you're a saint for putting up with it.xx

HERE HERE!

[bikemad]

Theres something seriously wrong with both your dh and your sil!!!! It drives me mad how blokes always think cos your a sahm you do nothing!!! Maybe you ought to take a few days out n do nothing n then he would see what you do do itms.

[Easties]

Awwww ems i would be livid :kisshands:

[Emsickle]

I'm on strike these next few days I've decided. Bar getting the kids to school, packed lunches, etc - I'm doing no housework, toys aren't getting put away by me and if he thinks I sit on my fat ar$e all day - I'm going to do exactly that...

:happy72:

[knotjustjigs]

spit in his tea Em :) he doesnt deserve a lovely wife like you !

Ketty x

[Girlzmum]

I'm on strike these next few days I've decided. Bar getting the kids to school, packed lunches, etc - I'm doing no housework, toys aren't getting put away by me and if he thinks I sit on my fat ar$e all day - I'm going to do exactly that...

:happy72:

We'll make sure you stick to that Ems - how dare he treat you like that.

[Bear]

I'm on strike these next few days I've decided. Bar getting the kids to school, packed lunches, etc - I'm doing no housework, toys aren't getting put away by me and if he thinks I sit on my fat ar$e all day - I'm going to do exactly that...

:happy72:

Good on you - go girl!! :woot:

[Easties]

I'm on strike these next few days I've decided. Bar getting the kids to school, packed lunches, etc - I'm doing no housework, toys aren't getting put away by me and if he thinks I sit on my fat ar$e all day - I'm going to do exactly that...

:happy72:
Thats exactly what i done a while back he hasnt moaned about what i do since lol

You go girl and stick to your guns :clapping:

[sal1]

Omg hun i def agree pleaseeeee stick to your guns!!!!! B****y show him!!!

[Purplecat]

are they still visiting Swindon? just tell me where and when and I'll let my hormones loose on them!!

[Whassat]

make sure you stick to the strike (i bet you on't though. bet you can't help yourself :cheesy:)
you coming to toddlers tommorrow?

[diddlepops]

I'm on strike these next few days I've decided. Bar getting the kids to school, packed lunches, etc - I'm doing no housework, toys aren't getting put away by me and if he thinks I sit on my fat ar$e all day - I'm going to do exactly that...

:happy72:

closedmouth1111:fryingpan::cursin::cursin::angry-smi123

Oh Emma hunni, I don't know how you put up with him - I really really don't. You deserve every medal going for not hurling a mouthful of abuse at him together with the nearest heavy object.

Make sure you stick to your strike - let's see how it really feels and don't you dare give it up!

And if you do decide to de-camp to Ellys make sure you let me know!!! :cheesy:

Hugest hugs hunni :kisshands:

[Nics n Jeevan]

Sounds like all men are the same, my dp only learned last week, after me having Ria and refusing to do any housework, is lucky i didn't make him change te kids nappies too... He soon apologised to me when he realised how much of a handfull Jeevan is...

And now dp does the dishes when he gets back from work, because his seen how unsafe it is to turn your back on Jeevan, with Ria around(he doesn't leave her alone... any chance he gets he wants to kiss and cuddle her, but he doesn't realise that he's half crushing the poor girl:cheesy:)

Big hugs to you hun:kisshands:and i hope you stuck to your guns... thas the only way they learn!

[sanjan]

:kisshands::kisshands::kisshands:

stick to your guns hun and hope he realises what you do

[Bear]

So then, how's day 1 of the strike going so far lol!

[Emsickle]

Apart from having been up the bank and done the business banking, and just printing the statements, oh and just washed Nathan's nappies, prob not too well lol.

I hate it lol

Trying to resist strimming the back garden as we speak:cheesy:

[Purplecat]

I think your better off doing tha nappies, DH did DS's yesturday but didn't remove anything first so I've spent age's cleaning the washing mashine before I could put a load on this morning!! He also put the cutlery in the dishwasher upside down, when ever he tries to help he seems to make it worse!!

[Emsickle]

I think your better off doing tha nappies, DH did DS's yesturday but didn't remove anything first so I've spent age's cleaning the washing mashine before I could put a load on this morning!! He also put the cutlery in the dishwasher upside down, when ever he tries to help he seems to make it worse!!

Mine NEVER does the washing. NEVER loads the dishwasher, NEVER tidies up, NEVER changes nappies and on the very odd occasion he does, then he puts disposables on and uses normal wipes and not the reusable ones. He NEVER hoovers, has tons of jobs to finish round the house, and this morning told me I was a bad parent

Hoorraahhhh!!! Oh I'm so pleased he has finally been at home for a long enough period of time to see it (yeah right!! he worked all weekend, worked all day yesterday, came home, had tea (which I'd cooked) and then went back to work till 9.30pm) :rolleyes:

[Purplecat]

slap him!! last time DH tried doing the I work hard, you get to stay at home all day thing, instead of stopping what I was doing, I went OTT, everything was spotless, his dinner was ready, with a cup of tea, Kids were bathed and ready for bed, all he had to do was give them a kiss goodnight, I had his PJ's ready, his fav programs set up and his shirt and lunch box sorted for the next day, He found it so wierd he's never complained again, and missed putting the kids to bed, it was too early for his dinner so now he's offered to cook for me when he gets in tonight!

I get the feeling your DH would love this, so don't think it would work for you!!

(although I do think my DH has asked me to BF so he doesn't have to do night feeds....)

[Fudge Cake]

oh ems thinking of you hun, i hope he wakes up and sees what you do soon. I think all men think we just sit here all day long!!

[Purplecat]

oh ems thinking of you hun, i hope he wakes up and sees what you do soon. I think all men think we just sit here all day long!!

yes, underware magics it's self clean and the dinner fairy pops in each night, and the nanny fairy disapears just as they get in the front door:happy72:

oh and the hoover has a will of it's own.

[sparklekitty]

oh ems, he is such a arse ( i think stronger words but wont post the on here!) What is his problem? he dosent deserve you at all! I think you should leave him with the kids for a few days, see how he copes then! The house would fall apart without you! Come down here and visit me! My new sofa is huge and very very comfy to sleep on!

xxxxx

[Emsickle]

slap him!! last time DH tried doing the I work hard, you get to stay at home all day thing, instead of stopping what I was doing, I went OTT, everything was spotless, his dinner was ready, with a cup of tea, Kids were bathed and ready for bed, all he had to do was give them a kiss goodnight, I had his PJ's ready, his fav programs set up and his shirt and lunch box sorted for the next day, He found it so wierd he's never complained again, and missed putting the kids to bed, it was too early for his dinner so now he's offered to cook for me when he gets in tonight!

I get the feeling your DH would love this, so don't think it would work for you!!

(although I do think my DH has asked me to BF so he doesn't have to do night feeds....)

Oh I've done it many a time Lisa, but like you say, he likes it when that happens - he knows that when I get peed off, I do everything he's just complained about to prove a point, even though, I'm not proving a point to him, just pandering to what he wants me to do itms.

He's never got up in the night for the LO's - last time he did was when DS2 was a baby and thats going back 5 years now.

TBH the only thing he does physically here, is nothing but pee me off. That and do most of the work to earn the money (I just chase payments/enter invoices etc so I don't apparently do much work :rolleyes:)

[Emsickle]

oh ems, he is such a arse ( i think stronger words but wont post the on here!) What is his problem? he dosent deserve you at all! I think you should leave him with the kids for a few days, see how he copes then! The house would fall apart without you! Come down here and visit me! My new sofa is huge and very very comfy to sleep on!

xxxxx

I've decided I'm coming up this year :yes: Not overnight, but am going to come up and say hi. Tis about time and sod him - can't be bothered with his, "oh its a 70yr bloke called Simon really :rolleyes:"

[sparklekitty]

:woot::party05::hyper:smiledancegd12:woot::party05 :smiledancegd12

YAY! im deffo not 70 and im not called simon!!!!! :hysterica

[Emsickle]

:cheesy:

He'll never get over that :rolleyes: