angry/upset WWYD?

[Purplecat]

my sister still asn't spoken to me since I got pregnant, in al fairness I haven't called her but the only reason I didn't is coz it was a kinda lose/lose situation, I was gonna call her to tell her about the baby but then I doscovered my other sister had gone behind my back and already told her, at the time I felt calling her would be rubbing it in, it's not like I call/see her much anyway.

Then when I had the first scan I sent a copy of the pic to everyone with the anouncment, which is when/how 90% of every one I know found out (it was supposed to be only my twin who knew but she 'accidently' told my mum)

Unknowingly to me I had sent it to her on her testing/AF day, on which AF turned up, honestly, if I hadn't of sent her to she would have thought I was purposely leaving her out, but I did send it, and that was wrong too.

Yesturday I found out that the other reason she wasn't talking to me was coz of a FB app called 'How many children are you gonna have?' I sent it to almost everyone who was on my FB at the time AND it was before I was pregnant!!!!!

TBH I'm not sure whether to be angry or upset with her and I can't decide whether to call her or not coz I don't know if it'll make things better or worse!!

Sorry it's soo long but it's really getting to me now.

What would you do?

[smirnoff]

I have never been in her position, but i can only stab a guess at how she must be feeling. TBH I dont see why you are angry with her.
I think you should call her and say "hi, havent spoken to you in ages" and take it from there.

[Purplecat]

I think I'm angry coz she completely ignored me and anything I said to her at a party we went to the other week. if she had just said why did you send me that app (which turns out to be the biggest issue) i could have told her that i forwarded it to everyone, not out of choice but coz thats just the way FB apps work.

I should call her really but apart from baby stuff or pre-school i don't really do anything to talk about.

I'm thinking I might send her the link for here as at the moment she feels like she's the only one in the world who can't concieve straight away, and she's not, infact I'm more strange coz it happens in a wink!

[lizzie]

when i was young i got pregnant my sister tryed for 20 years, she did get pregnant eventually , now i must of been young and insensitive as i showed her scan pictures and she took me shopping for baby clothes etc after me having 4 of them i started feeling bad but could'nt do anything i supported to appointments to find out why she could'nt get pregnant and she had my kids over night , i never pussy footed around her , sounds bad but as she saw it she got all the fun of having a baby without the sleepless nights and dirty nappies and i suppose that worked for both of us , but pregnant women want the world to know there carrying a life in there tums and i was excited with each one of mine and thats all people.(i did pray alot that she'd get pregnant though so not that insensitive and she now has 2 boys)

Maybe you should call her ask her to meet you at a cafe for a coffee , see if you can meet and maybe get back to talking slowly at first and maybe you can share a wonderful life that your carrying and in time your sister will get pregnant and you can both share the joy of her getting pregnant

[Purplecat]

Maybe you should call her ask her to meet you at a cafe for a coffee , see if you can meet and maybe get back to talking slowly at first and maybe you can share a wonderful life that your carrying and in time your sister will get pregnant and you can both share the joy of her getting pregnant

That is exactly what my Mum just said! I'm never very good on the phone anyway and the kids (she's fine with them) haven't seen her since before christmas.

[lizzie]

That is exactly what my Mum just said! I'm never very good on the phone anyway and the kids (she's fine with them) haven't seen her since before christmas.

I'd go for it , do it straight away cause the more you think about it the more you'll put it off and at end of day maybe she's feeling as bad as you

good luck

[Purplecat]

thanks, I have sorted it for friday, she couldn't do any sooner.

Just talking to you guys has made me feel better, didn't realise quite how much it was getting to me.

[Fudge Cake]

glad you are sorting it, for me nearly losing my life has taught me that life is too sort and family too precious. I would do whatever it takes hun to win your sister back, also try and think of it from her point of view (how would you feel/react if those were sent to you).

Good luck lisa x

[Purplecat]

TBH I would be more upset if I was included the same as every one else, I sent them to my cousin too, but she has accepted that her chances of getting PG is slim to none, so she enjoys taking part in everyone elses.

Don't worry, it isn't just the baby thing, she's never got over the fact that we got married in the same year, she wanted us to cancel ours so the whole family could focus on her and only her, her biggest concern (coz ours was first) is that the family would spend loads on us and have nothing left for hers!! which never happened cos it doesn't work like that.