I am furious

[Debbie32]

never a quiet day in my life, ive had it with everything, I just want a quiet and non eventful life but with my history and my family that will never happen

I was originally going to london this weekend to shop with my sister and mum for bridesmaid dresses and my dress, anyway due to finances I told them I wouldnt be coming to be honest I couldnt even afford then petrol money, then we had the news of my nan so life and emotions went crazy

anyway ive just had a call from my mum who is with my sister who have just announced they went out shopping today and brought the bridesmaid dress for one of my neices, I can not explain how furious I am

one its my day I should be involved, I also have a bridesmaid on pauls side that needed to be involved, I had no calls to even tell me where they were going

after the last year being so devastating my wedding was something to look forward to, some thing to get excited about, I just feel they have taken that away

Ive announced how angry I am but due to my nans death have also had to tread carefully as it was my mums mum

It just shows that as usual my family think im useless, of course I couldnt possibly pick a dress that is nice..infact im just a waste of space

[Girlzmum]

I'm not surprised you're annoyed - tbh I'd tell them to take it back as you already had one in mind for your flowergirls.

[Whassat]

oh debbie, that would rile me too. im stuck for words tbh, as you say its YOUR wedding, you should have had a say. :angry:

[Debbie32]

I cant see me ever calming down, 2 vodkas later and im still pacing

i told my mum I could no longer speak to her and put the phone down but I know I will have to call as we have the funeral coming up and I know it will be turned on me and im the one being out of order

ive cried with paul and asked am I being a brat, I never know anymore maybe im always in the wrong, but he is furious too

maybe they just wanted something to take there minds of things but not at my expense, why not buy themselves a new outfit

my sister has text blaming everything on my mum which annoys me even more, she could have picked up a phone beforehand

aaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhh my family

[Whassat]

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[Apri]

Think I would be annoyed too but would make the decision of them taking the dress back until you have seen it . You may even like it ?
Think they thought they were trying to help but didn't think it might upset you.
Appreciate you are annoyed at moment - sending hugs:kisshands:

[smirnoff]

i would be sooo upset!

[sanjan]

I cant see me ever calming down, 2 vodkas later and im still pacing

i told my mum I could no longer speak to her and put the phone down but I know I will have to call as we have the funeral coming up and I know it will be turned on me and im the one being out of order

ive cried with paul and asked am I being a brat, I never know anymore maybe im always in the wrong, but he is furious too

maybe they just wanted something to take there minds of things but not at my expense, why not buy themselves a new outfit

my sister has text blaming everything on my mum which annoys me even more, she could have picked up a phone beforehand

aaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhhhh my family

when she calls why not get Paul to talk to her insteadand if asked why just say that she has upset you and he will relay any message

your sister sounds like she is taking the easy way out

and lastly you are not being a brat

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[Daffs]

I'd not be best impressed either! I think they were a tad thoughtless there. ""cutey""b

[Tinkabell]

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[bikemad]

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[annettehere]

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[madmummy]

I would be really cross. I know it is hard but stand up for yourself otherwise you will regret it.

[Olive_Oil]

id be furious too!

[Debbie32]

I just called my mum, I took the high road and made the effort, after a minuet or so of general chit chat she decided to talk about the dress, i said im not going to argue about it but Im extremely angry

outcome...20 minuets later of listening to my mum justify what she has done, refusing to apologise and throw everything in my face the phone was slammed down on me

I did try to explain that nothing can justify this, its my day and I will not have anyone take over, and I was thrown lies

The last thing she said to me sums it up really "I was upset and it made me feel better" I tried to explain but at my expense but dead line

I know she has lost her mum but that doesnt excuse taking it out on me

ive lost my nan too also my neice on pauls side, a house seller and years of depression but it doesnt mean I have any right to shit on others..it actually makes more sense to be nice to others

so now im left without the family again (how many times has this happened) but this time I feel stronger, out of sad circumstances its made me realise life is short and I should be enjoying life not being constantly put down and bullied by my family..im 34 this year not 10

This behaviour from them is just the tip of it

[Bunny]

""cutey""b

[chocolate70]

Hi
Thats just the sort of thing that would happen in my family.
I just sulk usually then air my opinion and move on
life is too short -unless its a real yucky colour your niece will probably look lovely- they would pick something yucky would they???????

[Emsickle]

Huge hugs Debbie - stick to your guns hun - its your day, make sure you enjoy it.

[Debbie32]

Ive had a call today from my mum crying and apologising, she said she understands why im so upset and she doesnt know why she did it

I acepted that as my mum has never apologised for anything so it was a huge deal