Hubbys/ OH

[Jacks Aunty]

What work do your hubbys/OHs do?
Do they get involved in your childrens schooling?

The reason I ask is because my hubby is a teacher at a high school so cant be as involved in Jacks schooling as much as he would like.
It makes it hard when there are things like Target setting days, he really wants to be there but cant.
And when Jack comes home he is to tired to talk about his day at school.

Does anybody else have this problem?

[Headbanging Vonnie]

My DH is a "Project Specification Manager". Although he works at home a lot it is difficult for him to get to school events. I must admit I often feel disappointed when he doesn't go to school plays when I think he could book the time off but I daren't say anything to him.

[Easties]

My DP is a supervisor at stagecoach bus company and he works shifts really bad ones at that some times

Im very lucky as if he is home he will do the school run morning or evening or both (he is always home to do at least one)

He has only ever missed one play
Has been there every parents evening every birthday (last years alex b day was a close shave though but he made it to see alex blow his candles out then went straight back to work)

But when it comes to communicating with the kids about everyday stuff i.e school etc he dosnt really give that much as he is knackered though he did sit with both boys tonight and done their homework with them whilst i cooked tea

He also helps with the housework a hell of a lot and does packed lunches and uniforms

The only thing he refuses to do is bath the kids but thats cos he is scared of getting water in jacks ears

I must admit im very lucky with him he does have his faults but he really is one in a million

[Jen]

Dh is a project manager (self employed) if he is working from home then he is usually on some conference call or tied up in some meeting. He also works away a lot (in Vienna right now). He does spend time with the children on the weekends (taking them to rugby, clubs etc )

[trai]

Dh is a superviser at a dairy and has only missed one play and my Nan went in his place. If he has a day off he will do the school run and will do the packed lunch etc.

He used to come to parents evening but doesnt anymore as he tends to get wound up when he's there.

[Girlzmum]

My dh is a database administrator (fancy name for computer programmer!) and I'm very lucky - he's on flexi time so when I'm on placement he can bring madam to school, he'll be able to get out the odd afternoon if I can't pick her up or organise someone to. He hasn't missed a play or anything and he loves doing her homework with her!

[Emsickle]

My DP is a supervisor at stagecoach bus company and he works shifts really bad ones at that some times


Ahhh Stagecoach...our "favourite" customer, where hubby ends up spending most of his time.

DH and I run our own business replacing coach and bus windscreens. He is out from 7am (latest) till anything from 6pm to 12am working. Seven days a week.

He comes home, he's tired, from either work or my apparent snoring, so he does basically nothing with them at all. Sadly, if a customer rings for a job, he jumps. If we ask him to do something, he sits still (normally at the workshop, not on the sofa)

Rant over...

[Whassat]

hugs ems x
my dh is a head chef. he works 12 hours a day but hes fantastic with the kids. he can't always be here for school things but he does try and he makes up for it when he misses things

[Easties]

i will say i think there is a hell of a diference in being there cos they have / feel like they have to and wanting to

The wanting to wins everytime for me

[missymum22]

My OH is a stay at home dad, i'm the one that misses the plays, and doesnt do the school run, he cooks cleans does homework, and i bring home the money.

it makes me feel guiltycryingsmil

[missymum22]

eeek i killed the thread!

[bikemad]

My dp does 12hour shifts in a factory-2 on 2 off nights then days so it is rare he manages to get to anything-he did manage ds's xmas play this year and nativity at chapel but he does miss a lot n has yet to be off for a parents evening. When he is off he will do the school run no probs n sometimes stays up after a night shift to take ds to school for me. If he does miss something tho he will always text either me or ds's phone to ask how it went.

[Fudge Cake]

My dh is a carpenter, he goes to work at 7:30am and comes home around 5pm. I think he could do more for our boys in the eve (eg, bedtime routine anf stuff) but he says he is too tired as we are up most of the night with ds1 (he is a bad sleeper).

Ds1 is at nursery so we dont have the worry of plays and things at the mo, my dad is doing the nursery run for me right now as i cant drive for another week!

[sanjan]

since madam was young their dad has had various jobs, been on the sick and been to college and he has never been to a parent evening or christmas concert and has only put an appearnace into 2 of madams sports days

He only went to her art presentation as we needed to get there and back in an hour due to cams gymnastic lesson

and as far as cam is concerned he has never been to anything

[yoshigirl]

You should be thankful you don't have front Row Dad you know the one who can't stop telling everyone how great his princess is, even if all she's doing is holding up a piece of paper. I'm guessing they're all like that though really- aren't they ?

[Purplecat]

My Dh is a paraplanner, kinda like a financial advise with out all the qualifications( he done some exams but still got 3 basic and 5 others to go)

He takes a lot of interest in the kids, even took time off to pick DD pre-school and visit them, he was really upset he couldn't get the time of to pick the infants school. His secondary school was a scholarship to the best school in his area, one of the top in the country, so secondary will be decided between him and Amber. He's spent time teaching her the basics from a young age. So far (as she's only 4) there have been no parent evenings or concerts, but I'd like to think he'll be there if he can.

[Debbie32]

paul is a electrician, he has his own business so he puts in to many hours and he is currently working away all week in Herts why he builds the business up in Dorset.

at the moment he has very little to do with the kids during the weeks, but plays and takes them out at weekends

its not a great situation but bills need to be paid and hopefully its short term

[Chiggs]

Dh is an Air Traffic Controller, so works shifts (he's on a nightshift now!)

There's not much flexibility for swaps/ shift changes due to the strict rules about how often and how long he can work, so it's usually down to luck if he can make parents evenings, plays etc.

On the plus side he sees a lot of dd because of his shifts, and can sometimes do the school run, take dd to swimming etc.
It can be a pain when dh's 'weekend' is , say, tues/wed and then he's at work over a Sat/Sun.

[boyzmum]

My Dh is a specialist tree surgeon. He clears them from overhead powerlines & pylons. Because of this he works about an hour min drive away so is gone from about 6.30am till about 5pm, unless there are emergencys then he has been out till midnight before,especially when the weather is like this.

He has never been up the boys schools for parent evening/plays etc. He hasnt even been about to take them to school ever. I know it sounds bad written down here but he always asks them how their day went etc & gets me to video everything so he can sit & watch it with them.He would love to be able to go but its not possible

sarah