s*x - Monday morning discussion point!!!!

[smirnoff]

I watched "sex with mum and dad" last night and marc and i started talking..

could you ever talk to your parents about:

the number of partners you have had?
what you have done with each of them?
the places that turn you on?
whether you have ever reached orgasm?
their attitudes towards sex?
contraception or the lack of?
when you lost your virginity,who with and what the circumstances were....

could you then talk you your grandparents about the same thing???????

For those of you with older children is it something that you talk openly about?

For those of you like us with younger children would you hope that you will be able to have frank and honest discussions???

I couldnt / wouldnt, its just not the kind of relationship i have with my parents.. certainly not my grandmother EVER.
I do hope that my kids feel they can talk to me about anything, but only time will tell.....
So come on.... what do you think?

[pix4bu]

oooh, wish I saw this show

no, i couldn't talk to my mum back then or much now about s*x. My parents were quite strict growing up and kept telling me to 'hold on to my virginity'. And when I did lose my virginity, I felt this burden that I must now commit myself to this one person- which, I did end up doing at the time, even married him! (now ex)

I would like to think that if we ever have children, we can speak openly to them; well to a point. I can't see myself discussing orgasms with my 'future' child (depending on age, that is iykwim).

[Jacks Aunty]

I'm really close to my mum but I dont think itssomething I would want to discuss with her.
The same goes for Jack, I would like to think if he had any problems he would come to me but I cant see that when he is older he will want to discuss his sex life with me

[*Yvonne*]

I could never ever talk to my parents about this, I don't really speak to my Grandparents anyway.

If Chloe asks about certain things I explain honestly but nothing like what you've put (yet!), I have really tried my best to be there for Chloe & for her to know that no matter what happens she can talk to me. I don't want her to be in the same situation as me, 16 when I found out I was pg & terrified to talk to my Dad (I was 17 when I had Chloe)

Interesting topic :happy72:

[Purplecat]

I can discuss most things with my mum, not all details, but most, she knows DH is the only bloke I've been with. It's usually her I have to tell to shut up, It's my Dad she talking about!!! But I know i could go to her with any problem. She was the first person I went to about contreception, infact she came with me first time, I was 21 so she didn't have to, it was my choice. But I think the fact we are so open in our house meant there was no pressure NOT to have sex, IYKWIM, which is why I waited so long to find the right person. (I do know that she lost her virginity at 14ish)

I would hope Amber could talk to me when she's older.

I don't like my MIL attitude towards sex and her kids, she knows nothing of what DH and BIL used to get up to, and she would be upset if she did. I don't want my kids hiding that kinda info from me, and if they did I would make sure they knew it was unacceptabe.

My Nan I couldn't, shes very prim and proper.

My Grandma, yes. Although it doesn't get far coz we get stuck on the fact no-one told her what to do and it took many years to conceive coz theyweren't doing it right!!:cheesy:

[Lemon]

I can talk quite openly to my Mum but wouldn't discuss what we did in bed! :smiley-fa That's really none of her business! :cheesy:

I have other people to talk with, like friends on these kinds of intimate details, just would feel really uncomfortable talking to my Mum about them. It would also mean that she knew things about dp, which may make her feel uncomfortable.

She is my Mum and my friend but I feel it would somehow be disrespectful?

[runragged]

When I was a teenager, I couldn't have talked to either of my parents about it, but these days I'm so close to my mum, I feel I could tell her things about my sex lfe (and I have sometimes :blusingan)

My dad? No, I don't think I could have that type of conversation with.

I'm determined to be as open & honest with my kids about sex when the time comes, I want them to know that they can come to me to discuss it & that I'm pretty much unshockable.

I need them to know about not only pregnancy, but STIs, HIV, rhohypnol (sp) etc ... there's so much to pre warn them about these days. :(

Great topic! :happy72:

[trai]

I'm not close to my mum at all. We have a very superficial relationship. I could never and can't ever see a time when i would be comfortable discussing my sex life with her.

I am confortable talking to some of my friends about it and probably could on here.

I hope that my kids will feel comfortable to talk to me about anything, not every detail but to not feel embarrassed to come to me.

[lizzie]

the number of partners you have had? NO NEVER
what you have done with each of them? NO NEVER
the places that turn you on? NO NEVER
whether you have ever reached orgasm? NO NEVER
their attitudes towards sex? NO NEVER
contraception or the lack of? NO NEVER
when you lost your virginity,who with and what the circumstances were.... NO

FORGOT TO ADD MY MUMS TALK ON SEX WAS WHEN I WAS 16 SHE TOLD ME IF I HAD SEX I WOULD GET VD THAT WAS THE FULL CONVERSION

could you then talk you your grandparents about the same thing??????? NO

For those of you with older children is it something that you talk openly about? YES , ITS MAYBE THE ONE THING I DID DO RIGHT ALL OLDER CHILDREN USE CONDOMS AND THE PILL

For those of you like us with younger children would you hope that you will be able to have frank and honest discussions??? YES

[smirnoff]

the number of partners you have had? NO NEVER
what you have done with each of them? NO NEVER
the places that turn you on? NO NEVER
whether you have ever reached orgasm? NO NEVER
their attitudes towards sex? NO NEVER
contraception or the lack of? NO NEVER
when you lost your virginity,who with and what the circumstances were.... NO

FORGOT TO ADD MY MUMS TALK ON SEX WAS WHEN I WAS 16 SHE TOLD ME IF I HAD SEX I WOULD GET VD THAT WAS THE FULL CONVERSION

could you then talk you your grandparents about the same thing??????? NO

For those of you with older children is it something that you talk openly about? YES , ITS MAYBE THE ONE THING I DID DO RIGHT ALL OLDER CHILDREN USE CONDOMS AND THE PILL

For those of you like us with younger children would you hope that you will be able to have frank and honest discussions??? YES

Lizzie you have done far more right than that!

[smirnoff]

So have you talked to your children about sex? or have you left them to get their sex education from school/mates/magazines???
How have you told them about it?
have you told them about contraception???

[trai]

I should have said my sex education from my family was me in my nans living room with my mum, my nan and two aunties. My auntie handed me the medical book open at sex and puberty and said read that and dont read teh boys bit. Tbh i didnt read any of it i was just too embarrassed i asked friends and picked it up as i went along.

[lizzie]

So have you talked to your children about sex? or have you left them to get their sex education from school/mates/magazines???
How have you told them about it?
have you told them about contraception???

school do it but also i do , i tell them as much as asked for but not to much that its bogs there brain down , funny enough my daughter and step-daughters talk very openly about there sex lifes and how many b/f's they have had , makes mark rather uncomforable , the lads are taught that condoms are a must , lewis has just got a g/f so he's just had the TALK and then finished off by saying a baby is for life not just for xmas remember that !!!!! jade's nearly 14 and in throws of now explaining more to her but the biggest point i make when talking to them respect is a must respect for themselfs and for other party involved

[smirnoff]

school do it but also i do , i tell them as much as asked for but not to much that its bogs there brain down , funny enough my daughter and step-daughters talk very openly about there sex lifes and how many b/f's they have had , makes mark rather uncomforable , the lads are taught that condoms are a must , lewis has just got a g/f so he's just had the TALK and then finished off by saying a baby is for life not just for xmas remember that !!!!! jade's nearly 14 and in throws of now explaining more to her but the biggest point i make when talking to them respect is a must respect for themselfs and for other party involved

WOW hunni, sounds like you are doing everything brilliantly! I really hope that i do as good a job as you!

[lizzie]

awww thanks suzi

i always said when i had kids that they need to know about sex and there bodies and some things school can teach them but not everything or maybe the child to embrassed to ask , like why they are getting hair on there body , no kid would ask a teacher in front of 30-40 kids they die of embrassment , or again there taught about periods , but no-one teach's them how to use towels and then dispose of them properly and not down loo so it blocks everyone's drains , again , jamie asked why they had different condoms etc , so kids need to know from school , parents and even friends

[ruthie]

Absolutely not nor would I want to we might discuss contraception or sex in a non personal way but I wouldn't dream of telling my mother anything else and I certainly don't want to hear any info from her either thanks!!

[ruthie]

So have you talked to your children about sex? or have you left them to get their sex education from school/mates/magazines???
How have you told them about it?
have you told them about contraception???

I don't think I told ds anything!! but the girls i did, told them at about age 10/11 about their periods and bits and pieces bought dd2 a book which was read from cover to cover!! I wish I had been able to talk to them and in more depth but I found it very hard. My mother never told me a thing I started my periods at 11 and never told her, when she found out she told my friends mum I was so embarressed I hated her for about 2 years, I remember when we got a book at school and it had a naked man and women in I couldn't believe what an ugly thing the man had dangling:cheesy:

[bikemad]

could you ever talk to your parents about:

the number of partners you have had?

Lol yeah thats o problem.

what you have done with each of them?

Ummmmmm nope!!!!!

the places that turn you on?

Nope.

whether you have ever reached orgasm?

Errrrr yeah pnce but we were all drunk as skunks.

their attitudes towards sex?

Yeah-they have a 60's hippy laid back outlook on life so nothing fazes them n they will discuss anything.

contraception or the lack of?

Yeah they know what all us girls use(me n 2 sisters).

when you lost your virginity,who with and what the circumstances were....

Yeah they know who when were etc.

could you then talk you your grandparents about the same thing???????

Haha you must be jokeing!!!!!!!!!!!!

For those of you with older children is it something that you talk openly about?

Kind of we dont exactly talk bout it but it aint a hidden subject itms. Sd n ds have both spoken to me bout it n if it crops up it crops up itms.

For those of you like us with younger children would you hope that you will be able to have frank and honest discussions???

Yeah-we already have had relevant to age itms n i like to think we could continue to.

[Mary Poppins]

I could never have spoken with my parents about anything like that. Unfortunately the have both died, so won't be able to in the future. My grandparents died when I was younger, so that situation never arose.

My mum didn't even explain about periods to me. When I started, I told her and she just gave me a packet of ST and that was that. I did try to tell her about the Reproduction we were doing at school but she just told me that she was busy and continued to peel potatoes - so I never even bothered again.

I told both my boys about where babies came from when DS1 was 8 and DS2 was 6. DS2 teacher was expecting at the time and they asked me all questions about how the baby got there. I was so embarassed but I didn't want my kids to feel like I had and I wanted them to be able to come to me about anything.

I do sometimes say things about sex with the boys (now nearly 16 and 13) in a casual manner as I want them to think that it is nothing to be embarassed about but they do get embarassed and don't want to continue with the conversation.

DH on the other hand would rather superglue his mouth shut than say anything to the boys about sex. :hysterica Leaves everything to me.

[Catkin]

I could never have spoken to my parents about sex at all!

My sister gave me the "birds and the bees" talk (she was 18 years older than me)

I took my dd to the docs to go on the pill when she turned 16 and have always been open to both her and my 11 year old ds about the facts of life. Whatever they ask I try to answer truthfully, even though I sometimes know that DS is probably doing it for the shock factor!!!

x x x

[*debbie*]

there is no way i could have talked to my parents about it, my mother freaked when she found out i was on the pill at 17 :unsure:
I do talk to my dd 16 about sex, i dont go into detail about things like places that turn her on etc, i think thats private and for her to know about.
I talk to her about if she is remembering to take her pill, are her periods ok, i ask her if her bf is being ok about sex and not being pushy. Just general stuff, i dont need to know all the other stuff, just that she is well and happy and things are fine :kisshands:
My dd told me that she had sex with her bf just before her 16th, and that they were using condoms, so i had her put on the pill too as she asked about it. She had a thrush infection a few months ago which she came to me about, and i got her to the docs about it. Her bf is the only one she has had sex with also, and they have been together over 2 yrs now.
She knows she can come to me at any time, but i make a point of asking her things now and again. :kisshands:

[sheenamac]

I was handed a book by my mum (readers digest pamphlet i think) and that was that.
I have always been open with my children, number one will be 21 next month and we have an open relationship she often comes to me for advice. Number two is 19 and typical boy the only restrictions we put on him is to be courteous and careful the number of females that visit him implies we got something right. Number three is ten and started her periods yesterday she was fine and only bothered to tell me because she wanted some pads! Number four is eight and knows some things but we dont go into too much detail with her. I doubt i could have discussed much with my mum but my dad was more open.