Just needed to rant...

[blueberry]

This mifght sound petty but it's slowly getting to me.

I've mentioned here before that BIL#3 has applied to further his degree at the uni in the town where we live. So he's here now, he registered yesterday and class starts Jan 2.

He's staying with us now (despite my never agreeing to that! 2006argh ) but DH assured that it's only temporary. So I've found out that BIL is renting an apartment (which is actually VERY CLOSE BY to our new home :help10: , we'll be moving in in February, I think) but I'm not sure when he's moving there. DH has hurt my feelings and irritated me a few times since his brother came. It didn't help that he didn't even tell me that BIL is coming to uni, he only accidentally blurted it one day. Didn't even discuss about BIL staying here temporarily!

I've actually told him directly as well as hinting that I wouldn't like BIL to stay with us, and I hope he gets the point that I don't want BIL to come here every weekend as well. Once in a while is fine, as I could foresee BIL doing everything with us now especially during festive and semester holidays (God I want to cry when I think of this). Please don't call me selfish, I come from a big family, I've lived with family for 27 years and I have always longed for a quiet place of my own. That's why I've never invited any of MY OWN family members to stay (visits are fine). Plus I despise this BIL with a vengeance. Anyways, everytime I tried to talk, DH would almost always dismiss it and change the subject. Maybe he feels that his brother is his responsibility since he's the eldest.

I so don't know what to do now. I can't stand BIL's face, yet I do understand DH and his responsibility. I wouldn't want to separate brothers, iykwim, I'd hate it if someone tried to separate me and my sister.

God, grant me the strength, patience and positivity!!!

:ac39:

[Easties]

oh hun i dont know what to suggest
Huge hugs though and maybe a huge bottle of wine ? sounds like you need both :kisshands:

[Whassat]

aww do you actualy know how long BIL will be staying with you? you never know it may only be a short stay until his place is ready :crossfing
i don't think you're selfish, i know i would feel the same. but at the end of the day its family and it won't be forever (will it?? :unsure:)
where does your BIL live now? is there no way he can get into his own apartment earlier?

[blueberry]

I've no idea when he's moving in to his own apartment. DH has no idea. And I don't want to ask BIL. BIL's apartment is actually within walking distance to our new condo :help10: (which we'll be moving in in probably February). How scary is that? That's why I'm hoping he doesn't drop by every weekend or whenever he feels like it.

You know, DH has told me he'll let BIL be independent, but so far these past few days that BIL is settling his registration thingies (as well as going on dates with his GF), DH has been sending and picking BIL up :whip-new: . Of course I don't mind, that's their own problem as it hasn't affected my own schedule, but I think DH has been pampering his brother a little bit too much.

I'm just so prejudiced but I can't help it!!!! Rarrrrrrrr!!!!

[sanjan]

take deep breaths BB I can hear you stressing out from here

hope he does not stay for too long and the same with the popping by

hopefully he will be too busy with his course work but if not you will have to lay down the ground rules for visiting you in your new place and make sure that hubba bubba stands by you on this as well even though he is his younger brother

:kisshands::kisshands: