Hubby away

[shel]

hubby has gone away for the night for his works christmas doo cryingsmil

i hate him going away, I'm a wuss and feel very vulnerable home alone. Also I'm ridiculously paranoid and worry about him meeting someone else although I'm dealing with that and not thinking about it. Its more to do with my low self esteem than any trust thing.

He's staying in London over night, sharing a room with a work friend (male lol). I'm borderline agoraphobic, I can't stand being out in busy places or strange places especially at night, and the idea of going on a night out in London terrifies me, so I'm projecting all that on to him. I'm convinced he's going to get mugged and attacked and knifed and lost and stuff :hissyfit:

So basically I'm stressing out.

[smirnoff]

aw dont stress!

He will be fine and on his best behaviour im sure..

[shel]

I hope so. I was a complete and utter b*tch last night going on about it. I did apologise though.

I used to get really badly paranoid, him going to london overnight would have completely pushed me to the limit, but I'm learning to deal with it. The thoughts still pop into my head though :( I know later on tonight I'll get all worked up about it, not so much the women but the being out in London.

[Whassat]

hope you are ok. stay with us all night :yes:

[Headbanging Vonnie]

I hope you don't think I'm crazy for suggesting this but do you have a dog? I don't really stress too much when DH goes away for business but I find my dogs keep me company and make me feel safe overnight, when the kids are asleep in bed.:kisshands:

[shel]

we rent so can't have a dog, plus we both work and I'm disabled so hard to care for one. I know what you mean though, I used to have one and they do make you feel safer!

Feeling ok so far. He's rung me 5 times since he left lol so I know he's ok. The guy he's with there is a good friend of his who I've met a few times, so that helps, as he's married too and seems sensible.

[shel]

make that 6 times :cheesy: they've just been to burger king and about to go over to the pub to meet everyone else. The hotel he's in is nice, and luckily the bar is only open till 1am :happy72:

think it will be an early night for me.

[Headbanging Vonnie]

After reading this thread it seems like your DH is pretty trustworthy and I think you are stressing yourself unnecessarily. Let me tell this and I hope it makes you feel a bit better. I work in London three nights a week and I work until 2am. Even at that time of night the streets are busy, lots of cars, taxis, people going home from work or clubs. Unless he is intending on going down any dark alleys I am pretty confident he will be absolutely fine.:kisshands:

[shel]

he is pretty trustworthy. My issues come from an ex, not from him. For a long time I was ridiculously paranoid, but I had counselling and worked through most of it. I still worry, but like I said, its more a self esteem thing than a trust thing. I know he'll be fine. He will be fine.

[Whassat]

what a shame theres a load of rubbish on the tele tonight eh!

[shel]

managed to sleep, just waiting to hear from him that he's ok. Only prob is I have to go on a long drive in an hour and won't be home till after him!

why can't hungover men wake up at 8am to ring their wives?