New very anxious member...Help!!

[julesincambs]

Hi there,
I was just wondering if anyone on here has been in a similar situation to what I'm going through right now which is.....
I'm expecting my 3rd child at the end of February... It was an accident whilst on the pill and was not planned. However I knew I could not go ahead with abortion so am going ahead with the pregnancy. The problem I'm having is I have such strong feelings for the babys dad, but he's not long been out of a 20+ year relationship so doesn't want to enter another one although he says he will be there for the baby. I'm really struggling at the moment with trying to "get over" him as well as dealin with all the usual pregnancy symptons ( I should get shares in Kleenex!). I keep calling him up bawling my eyes out telling him how much I miss him etc...... I really don't want to be doing this and am finding it degrading now.I don't really have any family close by, and only really have one friend that I can talk to but because of their own individual experiences I think they find it hard to relate to what I'm going through..So I just feel sooooooo alone right now and was wondering how anyone else managed to get through it. I'm hoping that the hormones are making everything seem worse right now and figured that by coming on this site would be a good way to make friends.
Any advice greatly appreciated :) Jules x

[smirnoff]

Hi Jules and welcome to mz!
I havent been in your situation, although i have 3 children, none of which were planned and all conceived whilst on the pill..

hugest hugs though, you sound as if you need them!

[-Joy-]

Hiya Jules, this is the site to come to for advice!

Your right about the hormones bit, they dont help do they ?

Maybes he needs time to get his head round things ? Is he going to just be about for the baby - or back with you too? Has he gave any time limit sort of thing ?

This is going to be really hard for you at this time in your life, but it isnt impossible, and Im so sorry if this sounds harsh.. but do you really want someone about hun who doesnt support you at this time ?
You must look after your little baby and of course yourself at this important time.
love
x

[saraeden]

Hi Jules i now just how you feel ... my now ex husband left me when i was 23 weeks pregnant with our third child ... that was over 5 years ago now !!
i could say so much but i just want you to know that it will get better for you !!!
im sending you a huge big hug !
Sara x

[storm35]

I know where you are coming from, i was in a relationship, was sat in a mess on the floor 8months pregnant when he told me he was leaving, what a mess i was in, i already had 3yr old, 14month old, about to give birth again, but i managed hun and so will you.
I may sound cruel here but if he is not there for you now, and he knows you are lonely and need him and he wont commit then am afraid i wouldnot bother my bum about him, you will be ok, you have us all, i know it aint the same hun, but you will be fine, some of it is hormones and a feel of being on yhour own, been there, but you have us.

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