Silly

[ruthie]

Feel worried about work today as they have changed the tables in the cateen they are now round and only have four chairs at each one where as before they were long tables all put together with about 20 chairs. The thing is I only chat to a few people there as when I started I kept my mouth shut having been bullied at previous job I felt safer saying nothing, I did & do speak to a few of the other girls but not anyone in a bit higher position, now often I get a late break and the supervisers are the only other ones in the canteen, what do I do go and sit with them knowing i have never joined in their conversations even when I have sat near them before or sit on a completly different table? I can see me spending my break in the toilets:unsure:

[smirnoff]

dont spend your break in the toilets.. this is probably why they have changed the tables, to get closer conversations and more people working in a group...

go and talk to them!!! they are people too!!

[essexgirl]

i know what ur saying but i would sit with them as if you sit alone now it will be harder to join them again later if it was me i'd say anyone sitting her and say it's a bit empty in here and you didnt feel like sitting on ur own even if you dont say anythink to them this time it will make it easer to sit with them in the future
hope it's not as scary as your feeling now :luck:

[ruthie]

dont spend your break in the toilets.. this is probably why they have changed the tables, to get closer conversations and more people working in a group...

go and talk to them!!! they are people too!!

they are very nice but I feel they will thnk, God she can speak!!

[Emsickle]

I take the bull by the horns Ruth and go to their table, smile and ask if you can join them. If you can talk the hind legs off a donkey, even better as then they'll know you are a chatty person and not someone who is going to join them and sit saying nowt.

Go on....:yes:

[Whassat]

if there's anyone in there and you feel uncomfortable, get you mobile phone out and then site on another table, be occupied.
but as the others said. go and join in if they smile or say hello when you walk in.
if they don't acknowledge you. just make the first move and then decide.
god, what a load of gobblygook xx

[Lemon]

Awww Ruthie, I could give you a big hug ! Just tell yourself what is the worse that can happen ? You may feel a little awkward but use the opportunity to help you deal with some issues - your life will be better for it xx

[curlywurly]

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Hunny I know how you feel....

Try sitting and chatting - I'm sure they will see you for the wonderful person that you are!

[Bovabell]

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Really hope it's easier than you think hunni.

[Whassat]

hope your day went well xx

[ruthie]

hope your day went well xx

Oh thanks, luckliy or may be not they were out today so didn't have to face it but will soon no doubt. Isn't it silly if your shy and don't start off talking it gets harder and harder

[ruthie]

Ahh thanks for all you kind thoughts etc for dopey old me:cheesy: