silly council

[anonymous]

i live in a council house and have been on the exchange list for 2 years.
My tenancy is in joint names me and dh but for the last 3 years we have not lived together as he is a recovering alcoholic and as his dad is a ex alcoholic it was deemed better at the time that we put our marriage on hold to relive pressure on him and for him to live with his mum and dad. For the last 12 months we have been working at our marriage back to the whole dating thing has been great and we have been talking about him living back with me but he feels that although his dad only lives on the other side of town he still needs his support and what do i know as i have never been dependant on alcohol.
well to get to the point i have been offered an exchange to that side of town and he is estastic that he can get to some sort of normal and only be 5 mins from his dad. but.... the blooming council have said that he will have to end his tenancy with me and me take over it before they will let me move we dont want this we want a house together again albeit council. because i have been claiming for me and the kids living there (im on benefits as is he) even tho any letter that comes from the council is in joint names arrrggggghhhhh.

[smirnoff]

sorry i think i jhave missed the point. Are they saying that because he doesnt live with you that the tenancy will have to be in your name only?

Does this make any difference if you can get the move that you watn?

[anonymous]

it will take about 2 months longer plus it would really be the icing on the cake if the house was ours (even though this one is) as its a new start for us and the kids.

[ruthie]

It doesn't make any difference if he is on the tenancy agreement or not he can still live with you, the only difference is of course that should any arrears etc occur only you are liable for them.

[smirnoff]

what reasons are they giving for not giving you a joint tennancy?

have you called shelter for advice? If you are unhappy about it? they can and will tell you all the legalities and stuff and are fab

[anonymous]

i have emailed my housing manager and explained the situation in more detail as hes not here at the mo and he didn't want me to go into detail with her (embarrassed i think) just waiting for a reply but i will give shelter a ring and see where i stand thank smirnoff

[smirnoff]

you area more than welcome.
if there is anything i can do then shout!

[ruthie]

I expect as he hasn't been a tenant for three years they can't offer him a house ,you know what jobs worths they are even if you are still official together!

[anonymous]

It doesn't make any difference if he is on the tenancy agreement or not he can still live with you, the only difference is of course that should any arrears etc occur only you are liable for them.

i no ruthie but fresh start for all of us and all that just upsets me that i thought we could be back together in 6 weeks they are now saying could 3 and half months.

[ruthie]

Is it an exchange or a transfer you are having because if its an exchange you could lose it if the other people don't want to wait and if a transfer will they keep that house available for you? it would be awful to lose the chance just for a name on the rent book so to speak.

[anonymous]

its an exchange

[ruthie]

its an exchange

Will the people wait the extra time? if not who knows how long you will have to wait until someone else wants to move to your area, it would be such a shame to lose the chance.

[anonymous]

exactly!!! gone from being all excited last night to feeling like poop today feel sick and anxious. the house is absolutly perfect for us ok it needs work but i just want a chance for my family flaming council still waiting for council to email grrrr

[ruthie]

exactly!!! gone from being all excited last night to feeling like poop today feel sick and anxious. the house is absolutly perfect for us ok it needs work but i just want a chance for my family flaming council still waiting for council to email grrrr

I think if it were me I would exchange I know you would like the tenancy to be in both your names but is it worth losing it just for that, the chance may never come up again, it is still a new start for you all, seems silly to lose such a good opportunity.

[nicholamarie]

i would exchange and not wait , you may miss out and it wont matter whos name is on the tenancy. it's not your house so other than the fact that any unpaid bills will be for you only i dont see the problem.
i'm sure once you are together in the new house you can then maybe add him tho the tenancy. i will save time and you get the house you really want

good luck

[Apri]

i would exchange and not wait , you may miss out and it wont matter whos name is on the tenancy. it's not your house so other than the fact that any unpaid bills will be for you only i dont see the problem.
i'm sure once you are together in the new house you can then maybe add him tho the tenancy. i will save time and you get the house you really want

good luck

Agree - can you not move in and then add his name on after?

[anonymous]

its the waiting mainly they are desperate as they have 3 teenage girls and 2 toddler boys and them living in a small 3 bed house so they need to move asap and i dont no whether they would wait. its the area we need and it is very hard to get there. waiting for a phone call from housing manager at the mo

[smirnoff]

good luck for the call...
are they saying that youhave to wait up to 3 months to get his name taken off the tenancy and they wont let you move until that is done???

[anonymous]

no its a months notice he has to give to give up the tenancy and up to month for them to decide i can have the tenancy(even tho i live here on my own with the kids already) and then they have 42 days to do an inspection and give us the all clear to move

[smirnoff]

what a load of palava!

[anonymous]

so as you see although i can do it without him on the tenancy it would be a hell of alot quicker if they would leave his name where it is

[smirnoff]

yeah
why will they not keep his name on it??

[anonymous]

will find out this afternoon when she rings i hope so i cant be doing with all the hassle at the minute

[anonymous]

well after a lot of hassle i have got him to be able to stay on the tenancy they wanted me to promise that he will be moving in i said that's not up to me and these things take time but they said yes anyway thank god for that:party05:

[smirnoff]

well done anon, so are you moving soon then???

[nicholamarie]

thats great news, when can you move????

[rach04]

ok ok its me embarassing situation with me and dh sorry all. well the inspection is thursday so aslong as they pass it asap only the otherside of town but means moving kids schools etc sorry again

[smirnoff]

dont know what you are aplologising for !!!!
good luck for the inspection!! hope all goes smoothly for you!!!

[rach04]

They Have Just Pulled Out After All That20061008 20061008 :angry-smi123 :angry-smi123 2006argh

[nicholamarie]

oh no thats not good, have they said why??

[rach04]

Because My House Needs Decorating Only What They Would Get Extra To Thier Current House But........ Their House Is As Bad And I Offered To Do Some Of It Here

[nicholamarie]

but surley its nice to be able to redecorate the way you want , some people really are silly.

[rach04]

hmmm exactly oh well what will be will be