Hi there

[mum of 2]

Hi there i am a mum of 2 kids a boy aged 6 and a girl aged 1 and i have just become a single mum my partner got up yesterday morning and told me he was leaving no warnings nothing and he left at 5.30 this morning on the first train he could get he is now 500 miles away and i have heard nothing and i aint coping with it too well so i though id join here just to get this down on paper so to speak i cant believe he is gone i cant stop th tears and i cant eat anything tried a bit of toast earlier and it didnt stay down so this is day 2 of nothing in my stomach i know i have to eat but it just wont stay there i have had a constant sore head since yesterday that no matter what i do it wont go away

Have any of you got any advice that would help me get through this would be really greatfull as i dont know what to do i am putting a brave face on for the kids if i feel the tears i go to the bathroom

Sorry about the introduction not being a happy one but i cant cope and need a few friends to help me

thanx mum of 2

[smirnoff]

hi there and welcome to mz
sorry i have no advice to offer, but i couldnt read and not post a reply

sending you loads of hugs

[Catkin]

Hi hun ......

Have you got any close family or friends for support? Do you have a health visitor?

You need to speak to someone - we are all here but you could do with someone closer. Whereabouts in the world do you live, hun?

You need to sort out the practical things - bank, building society etc. You will also need to speak to the benefits agency about your money. You should get more benefits. Are you working?

x x x

[hector]

:hello13: :welcomebl
Sorry to hear your news but i hope you find some comfort here ""cutey""b

[Bunny]

:welcomebl ""cutey""b

[mum of 2]

Hi hun ......

Have you got any close family or friends for support? Do you have a health visitor?

You need to speak to someone - we are all here but you could do with someone closer. Whereabouts in the world do you live, hun?

You need to sort out the practical things - bank, building society etc. You will also need to speak to the benefits agency about your money. You should get more benefits. Are you working?

x x x

yeah i have my dad and my brother here and they are doing as much as they can my h/v knows about this and she is helping as much as she can by phoning me and asking me how i am. I come from scotland

well phoned the benefits office today and i have an appointment tomorrow not happy going on benefits but its all i can do as i have no real qualifications mine all ran out years ago

i think it will be hard tonight when the kids go to bed me being here alone no one to talk to just been keeping myself busy got a pile of washing i can put my mind to

thanx for the warm welcome and usually i am a happy bubbly person just not at the moment as i feel i have been hit by a freight train hopefully soon you will get to see what i am uaually like the bubbly me

[smirnoff]

stay and play...
one of the best things about mz is that there is generally someone around to chat to to take your mind off whatever is bothering you..

[nicholamarie]

welcome to the site, sorry to hear you are down at the moment, i've not got advice for you as i have not split up from my hubby but i'm sure everyone on here will help you as much as they can.

just wanted to say welcome and big hugs

[Whassat]

:hello13: and :sign16:

[storm]

:hello13: :welcomebl

[runragged]

Hello& welcome to MZ. Sorry to hear about your hubby xx :kissykiss

[Catkin]

glad to hear you have an appointment with benefits agency - there is no shame having help to bring up your children hun. You need to put a stop on any joint bank accounts so he doesn't clean them out and leave you with nothing - you probably think that he wouldn't do that, but believe me, he may well!

Hope you are feeling better this morning.

Hugs hun

x x x

[storm35]

Awww sweetheafrt you poor thing, hope you are feeling better my dear.
First things first, you need to get benefits sorted out, then y ou need to work out a budget for yuo and the kids, the http://www.moneysavingexpert.com has fabulous recipes that costs next to nothing, then you need to greive and get him out of your head my dear, you and th ekids are all that matters now, what a horrid thing to do. It hurts liek hell yes i know, and you dont want to eat, but if you dont eay then you get run down and catch every bug that is goign about and then you get ill, and cant watch kids, so put them first as hard as it may seem, its the only way hunni, anytime you want a chat you can pm me ok???

Chris xxx""cutey""b ""cutey""b ""cutey""b ""cutey""b ""cutey""b

[weaselgirl]

Sorry to hear about your other half.I hope you got on okay with the benefits appointment today.
Welcome to Mumszone.

[katetinkley]

hope you're doing better today.

My H didn't actually leave me, but did have an affair and said that's what he was going to do.

Just try to make it from day to day. Eat what you can - some cut up fresh fruit - I lived on fruit juice for a week, as couldn't keep anything else down.

Take any help you can get - lots of people I knew are now close friends - they really came through for me, people I wasn't expecting or thought I didn't know that well.

((hugs))