View Full Version : do you ever ''check'' your dp/dh's/dw's phone
Whassat
15-01-2007, 02:39 PM
for messages/missed calls etc?
englishrose
15-01-2007, 02:40 PM
no but he checks mine!
Netty
15-01-2007, 02:40 PM
No, I don't
nicholamarie
15-01-2007, 02:44 PM
no, have never felt the need to, trust him 100%
Whassat
15-01-2007, 02:44 PM
oh err...just though..im not anon btw lol.
just remebered a time i did look through my dh's phone..a year or so ago now and found text messages from some girl, nothing really sinister, just things like 'night darling' and 'morning sexy' :eek:
well, he got an ultimatum, he either tells her to stop it, or i do!!
turned out to be a girl who's aunt had just died, (the aunt worked with dh) and she was texting him....:unsure:
but i do wonder how long it would have carried on for if i didn't see the messages in the first place.
i do check my dh's phone, only occassionally...if hes left it lying around and hes asleep or in the bath..but i don't make a habit of it iykwim
Trinity
15-01-2007, 02:45 PM
No, hubby has a phone but hardly ever uses! I would start to get worried if he suddenly started texting though! In all the years he has had a phone he has only texted me a handful of times.
lindy
15-01-2007, 02:47 PM
I do but only because im nosey,not that i want to catch him out at anything!! Andrea i would go apeshit if i found anyhting like that on his phone though:smiley-fa
Whassat
15-01-2007, 02:49 PM
I do but only because im nosey,not that i want to catch him out at anything!! Andrea i would go apeshit if i found anyhting like that on his phone though:smiley-fa
i did!! lol. trust me
it was my nosiness that got the better of me!...you know how you wish you didn't bother with some things :cheesy:
but i do wonder
Whassat
15-01-2007, 02:52 PM
lol...i just remember a time when i found lipstick down the back of our sofa too...
i nearly kicked him out and everything...
god this looks bad, i do trust my dh :yes: lol
in the end i ''remmebered'' that i had been to a wedding fayre and got a goodie bag and the lipstick had fallen out of there :blusingan
Olive_Oil
15-01-2007, 02:54 PM
i dont 'check' as such...but i have a nosey through now and again,,,,
you know what they say though....curiosity killed the cat!
darwins
15-01-2007, 03:00 PM
nope, never
rach04
15-01-2007, 03:05 PM
i do i admit it but not for the girls! i also read his chatlogs but only because if i didnt i would never know what he really gets up to at footy matches:D
storm
15-01-2007, 03:09 PM
Have done in the past, he is always going through mine though, i dont care as ive not got anything to hide!
Ellie
15-01-2007, 03:15 PM
Never have, know he wouldn't read mine either, not that there's anything exciting in there anyway! We also both keep journals, and neither of us would read those.
Olive_Oil
15-01-2007, 03:30 PM
i used to keep a diary every nite and DH (before he was my DH) read it once, well one page of it, but it would have to be the page telling all about my 3some :cheesy: he was a bit shocked - but so was i that he read it...so even stevens LOL
not kept on since then...
Ravenfire
15-01-2007, 03:32 PM
I have done and he has read mine as well, not because we were checking up but because we were nosey! I know full well if there was something he didnt want me to see he wouldnt be silly enough to leave it on there... and vice versa!!
Whassat
15-01-2007, 03:33 PM
i used to keep a diary every nite and DH (before he was my DH) read it once, well one page of it, but it would have to be the page telling all about my 3some :cheesy: he was a bit shocked - but so was i that he read it...so even stevens LOL
not kept on since then...
jawdown1234 :hysterica :blusingan ooops!
smirnoff
15-01-2007, 03:43 PM
Never have, know he wouldn't read mine either, not that there's anything exciting in there anyway! We also both keep journals, and neither of us would read those.
exactly the same here.. although he doesnt keep one...
Seren
15-01-2007, 03:43 PM
oh yes!
I love him and trust him, but not other women. He also has access to mine
emmalouise
15-01-2007, 03:43 PM
i check my dh phone every so often but not to check for girls just because otherwise he forgets stuff like his mum's invited us over for dinner etc... i only ever look when he's there though, don't like the idea of being sneaky!! we often use each others phones anyway so there would not be much to see.xxx
Patti odoors
15-01-2007, 03:47 PM
I have done and he has read mine as well, not because we were checking up but because we were nosey! I know full well if there was something he didnt want me to see he wouldnt be silly enough to leave it on there... and vice versa!!
:yes: us too.
kathyhinsh
15-01-2007, 05:13 PM
sometimes in the morning, I look @ the screen 2 see if he's had missed calls/txts, but thats cos he leaves it downstairs & doesnt hear it!
& I only do it now & again...I never actually look @ any messages tho
TopKat
15-01-2007, 05:15 PM
No, I haven't.....He doesn't have a mobile now, but even if he did, no I wouldn't.
no I have never felt the need to
weaselgirl
15-01-2007, 05:46 PM
No i never use to, but i wish i had!!!!
I do look occasionally now though.Just because i'm nosey and i dont went to be made a fool of again.
No but sometimes he will show me messages only because its a work one, he likes to share some of the stupid messages he gets of work!!! But if left around no i dont....
angel1980
15-01-2007, 06:16 PM
Sore subject for me really, although was over a year ago when I did and it caused sooo many problems. I don't go anywhere near dp's phone anymore, although it's always on him or off so couldn't if I wanted to! Don't think he's ever checked mine, well once messing around but that caused problems too!!! Phones and computers cause so many problems I think!!! (or maybe that's just me!)
sanjan
15-01-2007, 08:32 PM
when I get the chance I have to see and it is unlocked.
that was how I found out what he had done to me - he forgot to delete some sent messages and I found them when I was sending a message to madam
have also checked madams as well
but as I don't have a phone they can't do it back. not had one for about 3 years and don't miss it
Chell
15-01-2007, 09:02 PM
I don't even know how to unlock it nevermind check it.
essexgirl
15-01-2007, 09:15 PM
no never not too say i haven't been tempted but we both leave our phones around i'd be horrified if i found dp going though my phone he has the chance i think it's like diarys it's my personal space itms but i think if he was hiding his phone i would have too look:yes:
angel mum
15-01-2007, 10:04 PM
I do because we are trying again after he cheated on me - wish I'd done it earlier!
Daffs
15-01-2007, 10:12 PM
Maybe once, when I cared enough to be insanely jealous of him working in an office full of women but I got over it quick sharpish and haven't in years. Now I don't care.
Daffs
15-01-2007, 10:13 PM
I do because we are trying again after he cheated on me - wish I'd done it earlier!
""cutey""b
Use to check my ex DH but had good reason too along with some of his emails - well he did have 3 affairs whilst I was with him. However, with current BF - trust him 100%
Ravenfire
15-01-2007, 10:42 PM
Maybe once, when I cared enough to be insanely jealous of him working in an office full of women but I got over it quick sharpish and haven't in years. Now I don't care.
You selected the wrong option then you nutter! :yes:
Ravenfire
15-01-2007, 10:42 PM
I do because we are trying again after he cheated on me - wish I'd done it earlier!
Sorry to hear that. Hope things work out ok for you.
I do because we are trying again after he cheated on me - wish I'd done it earlier!
""cutey""b Thinking of you - hope things works out this time.
No, it's his phone and I'd be seriously p!ssed off if he invaded my privacy like that
angel mum
15-01-2007, 11:19 PM
Thanks guys - wasn't a looking for sympathy vote - honest!!!!
Getting there slowly but surely - still don't trust him fully yet!!!
ruthie
15-01-2007, 11:31 PM
Did a couple of times when we were going out together as he still heard from an ex but now, no, anyone who wants him can have him(he's reading this over my shoulder):D
Daffs
15-01-2007, 11:42 PM
You selected the wrong option then you nutter! :yes:
What are you? The poll spy?!!!!!!!!!
Ravenfire
15-01-2007, 11:46 PM
My duck sees everything!!
Daffs
15-01-2007, 11:56 PM
Doesn't it just :D
bikemad
16-01-2007, 01:14 AM
I did when we 1st got together cos an ex kept texting him but I dont now-dont need to anyways cos half the time he dumps it on me to watch lol-I answer the bloomin thing more than him.:hysterica
wokkies
16-01-2007, 09:53 AM
I dont exactly do it to check, he doesent know which button to press to receive texts and read them, if he wants to send a text i have to do it so got no worries about him sending messages, main person who texts us is ds and mil, ds usually saying he is going to be late, then he comes in and dh has a go for him been late but its cos dh didnt read the message!
katetinkley
16-01-2007, 01:16 PM
Similar to someone else - he cheated, we're reconciling and it's part of the new deal.
Wouldn't have done it before tho.
yummymummy85
16-01-2007, 01:17 PM
i have looked in the past as i found loads of dating websites on computer history and profiles on dirty sites. he denies doin it and a friend even rang to say he had been set up but always have doubts in my mind.
I look every now an again as he never says who has txted and finding all that on the computer when i was pregnant Knocked my confidence alot.
RosiesAngels
16-01-2007, 01:34 PM
Yeah I do look at his phone but not cause I don't don't trust him...some of our friends contact him on that phone so in a way its mine too. He doesn't mind me doing so as he says whats mine is yours :) and seeming as we share it sometimes its not really a problem.
Rx
Ellie
16-01-2007, 03:15 PM
I have to check father in law's messages as he hasn't worked out how to do it yet! :fryingpan:
stacey_lou
16-01-2007, 06:33 PM
well not on phones but on faceparty once, my mate sent my boyfriend a message sayin she really liked him n wud he meet up with her etc for a laugh but he replied sayin yes! so she rang me later told me she had done this for a laugh blardy bla i went mad with her n then she said he had sed yes, we decided she wud arrange to meet him n i wud go to, however on the night of the meeting he rang me all excited sayin he had managed to fix hix mate up with some girl n he had jus been shopping with his mate to buy him an outfit etc so my mate ended up going to meet his mate n they r still together now!!!
if he ever finds out he will kill her lol
love stace xxx
Hollysmummy24
16-01-2007, 09:20 PM
I Have looked on a couple of occassions- usually when ive been utterly bored more than anything else though.
Headbanging Vonnie
16-01-2007, 11:46 PM
I put no because I know DH has nothing to hide and I trust him but if it rings and he has left it at home I will answer it. He doesn't really get many calls or texts anyway.
blueberry
19-01-2007, 06:48 AM
Yes I do! But not often. I'm not sure why I'd want to go through his phone though. Perhaps because I still harbour feelings over his inability to be completely honest on two occassions before. One, a week before our engagement ceremony he confessed to me that his colleague (who was in an abusive relationship with her BF) told him she loves him and now he didn't know how to react over the entire thing. Gosh I was raving mad 20061008 . How can he NOT know how to react when he's a week away from becoming my fiance!
Then a year later, right after our wedding, I spent the night at his parents' for the first time and he was showing me some of the family album, and I saw pictures of M (our ex uni classmate, DH and I were classmates in uni) in his album. Small passport pictures as well as pictures of both of them taken on our graduation day which I have never seen before. There was also a pix of M taken with DH's mom at graduation! So I asked him what was these all about, then he sheepishly admitted that on the graduation day, he introduced BOTH me and M to his mom, so that his mom can make the "necessary comments" IYKWIM. To say that I was soooo bl00dy pi$$ed was an understatement! The entire world knew on that graduation day that I've been his girlfriend since we were in second year (although M did make her moves on him but to no avail) so this entire "making choices" thing was totally uncalled for.
I think I totally trust him now though, he has matured a lot, but I still do check his mobile phones anyway. I don't know his email passwords (although he knows all my passwords as I write them down in a little book) so I don't check that and I don't check what's on his user ID side of the PC anyway. But I notice that he does check mine. I think he has gotten suspicious since I have such a legion of male friends :cheesy: .
incywincy
19-01-2007, 04:47 PM
Only check when dh has left it at home and gone to work without it. Just in case its important!
But he did once get some dodgy messages from some call us naughty girls thing???? But the fact that he was as annoyed about them as me put my mind at rest!
Girlzmum
19-01-2007, 05:44 PM
No, I don't at all. I've never felt the need to. As for him, he's even left my phone bleeping that theres a message all night because he didn't want to check it - I've told him it's fine but he just won't do it!
wokkies
19-01-2007, 05:45 PM
oh i have to check his cos he doesent know how to get the messages, very simple phone, ask kathyinch she gave me it, phones just frighten him, lol all he can do is phone a number on it
angel1980
19-01-2007, 05:46 PM
Ooo no, if dp ever had a message and he wasn't near, I wouldn't look, and i'd be mad if he looked at mine!
wokkies
19-01-2007, 05:47 PM
we have one atm cos mine has dissapeared thanks to little ds, so we share the one, even though hardly anyone knows the number, he can only use the phone someone bit if he has the number on a piece of paper aswell to type the numbers in, lmao
elkatie
19-01-2007, 10:12 PM
I did look when we first got together, just feeling a little insecure back then I guess, but never found anything interesting.
Now if it rings he says oh you answer it, or check my message will you, so I know hes got nothing to hide. Infact now we try to get each other to answer each others phones and texts as neither of us can be bothered to get up and find the phones :cheesy:
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