stupid stupid man

[xmisscx]

Im so angry with Mat,

why is it that mums/wives have to carry on no matter what!

Ive not been well for a couple of wks now, cough/cold/really sore head yet I still somehow managed to put the washer/dryer on and make sure everyone was happy/clean/fed (although Harry did go to mums for 2 of the days - he was back for bedtime though) Mat never once lifted a finger (nothing new there though, he's been awful lately - really lazy!)....

Then he got it (ill) - The world ended!

His mum came round and fussed over him, I continued to do everything I was already doing as well as making sure he was ok and I was still ill myself.
Now Harry's not feeling too good and we had a bad night, Mat is feeling better but instead of helping me out his mum has called and she's ill now - so he's on his bike (yes in this wind so whether he'll return is anyones guess!) on his way to his mums (about 30mins down motorway!) to help her out and buy her suplies because shes not feeling too good!!!!!

Why is he so evil?? - I feel like leaving him for a wk but I couldnt do it to the kids!

(Hope that made some sense!)

[Sarah]

Silly selfish git - I'd be fuming. He can't help you but he rushes off to his Mum??? She's a stupid arse for asking him to go too (if she did ask him) as she knows he has a family and responsibilities. I think he needs a good talking to!

[xmisscx]

thats what I like to hear!!!

(and yes his mother did ask him)

[Sarah]

thats what I like to hear!!!

(and yes his mother did ask him)

I think she's got a nerve! I'd be livid if dh's Mum phoned and asked him to go and look after her - I mean it's not like she needs to do anything is it? I'm assuming there's only her - no kids or anything for her to try to look after like you did!!
:hissyfit:

[Seren]

this cold thing that is dong the rounds is really nasty, my GP says that younger people are coming down with a very nasty virus rather than oldies this winter. It's a shame he can't be a bit more understanding, I guess they are so used to us caring on regardless that they assume that all is ok. Men always run to their mums, you tell him when he comes home that he needs to put you and the boys first and start by making you a nice cuppa

[xmisscx]

I think she's got a nerve! I'd be livid if dh's Mum phoned and asked him to go and look after her - I mean it's not like she needs to do anything is it? I'm assuming there's only her - no kids or anything for her to try to look after like you did!!
:hissyfit:


Just her (her oh is away at the mo so she is on her own but shes not an old lady or anything, about 45 )

and yep B think it will start with a nice cuppa! (and then a loud discussion lol)

[Sarah]

Just her (her oh is away at the mo so she is on her own but shes not an old lady or anything, about 45 )

and yep B think it will start with a nice cuppa! (and then a loud discussion lol)

That's only 5 years older than me!! I wouldn't dream of asking anyone to come and look after me and I've got 3 kids!! I want to hit her now 20061008

[Katiequiggle]

I would certainly talk to him about how you feel about it all. I think sometimes that they are selfish without even realising it. Mine is dreadful when he's 'ill' bit manages to make me feel like a bloody nuisance when I am unwell.

Hugs Kate

[Netty]

It just comed down to attitude doesn't it - especially when there are young children, mums just "have it to do" (as a friend says!) and we get on with it as best we can.

When partners are ill, they have to take to their beds for as long as necessary ....

Also think his mum was out of order asking him to go see her, I'm "nearly" 45 (ok, a few years to go yet!) and I'm sure I could drag myself to the chemist for tissues/painkillers etc if it was necessary.

[angel1980]

Good luck talking to him Erica, I wouldn't be happy at all!!!

[smirnoff]

what a tw*t.
I to have had this really nasty cold/cough/sopre head thing too and it just wont shift.. had it for weeks now... really irritating. the kids too have been up most nights so i have delt with that too....
so i can empathise with you hun.
MArc has been really busy working on my new car so hasnt been around to help much, but i would be fuming if he had the same attitude that mat has shown... how dare he? havent you got enough on your plate??

[bikemad]

I think she's got a nerve! I'd be livid if dh's Mum phoned and asked him to go and look after her - I mean it's not like she needs to do anything is it? I'm assuming there's only her - no kids or anything for her to try to look after like you did!!
:hissyfit:

Id be the same-I know dp does stuff for his mum but not if I need him here itms.

[nicholamarie]

men,why are they always dying when they get colds.

us mums carry on with no rest and they end up with time off work and rest all day, when do we get our day off

[weaselgirl]

I think his mum is just as much to blame as he is. While i am all for helping people out where i can charity starts at home and he should be looking after his family.

[runragged]

I'd be fuming too, with both of them! :angry-smi123

Her for being so pathetic that she has to get her son away from his ill wife & kids, & him for running off to her!

Hugs hun, hope the germs are soon gone xx:kissykiss

[sal1]

Oh i agree with what everyone else as said... I would be fuming to with him and his mum, i would talk to him and tell him how you feel, and how selfish he as been!!! I hope you start to feel better soon... Sending you big hugs xx

[wokkies]

bet he has man flu aswell and it is worse than any woman has ever had, they are like that twa*s men, put your foot down and tell him its his turn for a change,

[Whassat]

hugs Erica xx

[xmisscx]

thanks everyone, ive had him working his ass off snce he came home lol he's made the tea done the dishes and even cleaned the carpet, I only asked him to hoover! - think he's feeling a bit guilty - good!!

[darwins]

men,why are they always dying when they get colds.

us mums carry on with no rest and they end up with time off work and rest all day, when do we get our day off

i had a cold once, but i carried on decorating, and moving house. all the time people where saying to me, "you dont look very well" and "you should see a doctor" all i wanted to do was to be left alone to sweat it out. then i woke up in hospital with pnemonia lol

[elkatie]

Poor you, thats not fair at all.

I cant belive his mum, 45 and she cant cope! I'm 40 and I manage fine and have 2 young kids! OMG imagine how she is going to be at 70 years old jawdown1234 He really needs to stop jumping when she clicks her fingers or she will just get worse.

Glad your making him make up for it.

In mens deffence though my Dh is sickening when hes ill, he never gives in and never moans at all, just deal with it whilst carrying on, puts me to shame :blusingan I'm a bit of a wet when it comes to being ill.

[kathyhinsh]

thanks everyone, ive had him working his ass off snce he came home lol he's made the tea done the dishes and even cleaned the carpet, I only asked him to hoover! - think he's feeling a bit guilty - good!!

So he blinkin well should!



I know wot u mean when they get ill tho, ut dh is awful, he'd rather 'suffer in silence' than bother going 2 the doc's 4 anything!
(unless its tonsilitis...that really floors him!)

I cant complain about when I'm ill tho, cos with a nurse 4 a mum & a sis, he learned lots about care...& I do get looked after, if I'm really ill that is

[ruthie]

Do you call him 'Mummy's boy'? His mum wants a good slap too, if it were me and it was my son, he'd be getting a dam good telling off for not helping you. Glad you are punishing him a bit now.