Ex's and Birthday's

[Apri]

Gotta have a rant - My ex only visits the kids every 4 weeks and each visit is only 2 hrs, the last time was a week before one of the youngest DS's birthday and I emailed him a list of things to get. DS's birthday comes and goes and nothing arrives not even a card - well ok - I said nothing and waited for his next visit today and when I asked why he didn't bother - his reason was "he didn't know what to get him and that I am making more of an issue out of it than he is". :angry-smi123
Good job I didn't say Daddy was bringing a present up!

For our older DS he made sure there was a present and a card on her birthday. I tried to mention this fact and that I would like both our kids treated the same and he told me he didn't see there was a problem and that I should stop making an issue of it.
:ac39: 20061008

Just for info, he pays no maintenance whatsoever towards the kids and I don't want him paying maintenance as it would be more hassle than its worth. Just wanted him to buy a presents for kids when its their birthday or at christmas.

Thank you for listening : "Soapbox"
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[lizzie]

My ex did same but did get him some thing a week later i was annoyed too :ac39:

[Rhianydd]

my ex did the same when he use to see the girls but doesnt have anything to do with them now
better of with out him

[weaselgirl]

I'd be fuming too. How old is your ds?

[Apri]

Hi - younger DS is only 3 years of age (The one he forgot). In fact thinking about it, he forgot his first birthday too) and older one is 5 years of age.
Guess Im more upset than DS - but at least I have calmed down a bit now :)
Sometimes its hard being a parent and remaining positive for the kids sake of their father :(
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[Jess85]

Oh hun *hugs* I really don't know what to say...
I was brought up by my grandparents as when my mum and dad split up (when I was about 2weeks old) my mum got custody but then left me with my grandparents when I was 6 weeks old. Don't think my mum and dad paid any maintenance either...
I love my grandparents so much and see them as my parents, and just remember how well you're doing by your children. You aren't making an issue out of it, it is what should be done on your child's birthday! Maybe he needs to grow up himself? Either way your children will see how useless he's been when they get older (I know I did with mine)
Hope you're ok x