Burying the hatchet

[Jess85]

A few months ago, I posted on here about my best friend since reception class (4yrs old) told me she never wanted to be friends with me again, because we fell out over her boyfriend being horrible to me. Haven't spoken since but my friend came over and he said that she always asks about me.
My grandad keeps telling me to ring the priest because I want to get Zack Christened, but he can't seem to get it into his head that the reason I won't call him is because I don't have a Godmother. She was and is the only person I trust to do that job, we have been through so much together in 16 years and this is the first time anything like a man has come between us! I just sent her an email telling her I really want her to be Godmother and can't we be friends again.
I'm scared of getting a nasty reply because it will upset me. Have I made a mistake? cryingsmil

[ruthie]

No you haven't done the wrong thing, life is to short to hold grudges, if you can make up with your friend it will be lovely, if you get a nasty reply at least you know you tried.

[smirnoff]

no, life is too short. Hopefully you will both have realised that there are far more important things to worry about then men!

[Whassat]

No you haven't done the wrong thing, life is to short to hold grudges, if you can make up with your friend it will be lovely, if you get a nasty reply at least you know you tried.

aww i hope shes noce back to you Jess...i agree with Ruthie. life IS too short and and at least you have made the effort. well done, thats a hard thing to do in itself..""cutey""b

[vikki]

oh jess, that so nice of you, have you had a reply yet?

[Jess85]

No just checked, but I sent her an email when I found Zack's lump basically telling her I was scared. She wrote back saying 'oh no hope you and the little man are ok' but that took a couple of days so will wait and see.

[vikki]

Well all I can say is that you have done the right thing, you have offered an olive branch and its up to her to take it. Is there no one else that can be a godmother or father? family ?

[Jess85]

Tbh I don't know much about Christenings... I heard that Zack can have 2 godfathers and 1 godmother and vice versa for a girl?? Confusing! Have my Godfathers but definitely want her to be Godmother... don't know if it can be changed later on and if it can't well I want it perfect now iykwim xxx

[Sarah]

Tbh I don't know much about Christenings... I heard that Zack can have 2 godfathers and 1 godmother and vice versa for a girl?? Confusing! Have my Godfathers but definitely want her to be Godmother... don't know if it can be changed later on and if it can't well I want it perfect now iykwim xxx
There is no set rule about God parents although traditionally it's two men and a lady for a boy and two ladies and a man for a girl but really the most important thing is that whoever you choose actually believes in God!
As for your friend it would be nice if you could sort things out again. I hope it all works out for you.
In my prayers.
Sarah x

[Jen]

I really hope she finds it in her heart to put things behind her, its along time to be friends just to throw it all away

[Girlzmum]

Honey, I wish I was as brave as you. I had a huge falling out with madams godmother and really wish I could pick up the phone to her now, she was one of my best friends and I felt that I could have talked to her about anything. It's been over a year and a half now and I still miss her, although I doubt I'll ever really trust her again - her dh and my dh had been best friends for years (from childhood, he's madams godfather) and they've pretty much lost contact over it and they haven't bothered with madam since her 2nd birthday.

I hope she gets in touch soon and you can mend your bridges.

[lizzie]

no, life is too short. Hopefully you will both have realised that there are far more important things to worry about then men!


I totally agree life is to short hope she agree's to it ""cutey""b

[Jess85]

Honey, I wish I was as brave as you. I had a huge falling out with madams godmother and really wish I could pick up the phone to her now, she was one of my best friends and I felt that I could have talked to her about anything. It's been over a year and a half now and I still miss her, although I doubt I'll ever really trust her again - her dh and my dh had been best friends for years (from childhood, he's madams godfather) and they've pretty much lost contact over it and they haven't bothered with madam since her 2nd birthday.

I hope she gets in touch soon and you can mend your bridges.

Oh Collette how sad. *hugs* is there any chance you might make up? What a shame :hissyfit:

[Icedodge58]

""cutey""b
What is it with men that we all seem to loose our friends because of them
Hope all gets sorted out

[Girlzmum]

Oh Collette how sad. *hugs* is there any chance you might make up? What a shame :hissyfit:

I doubt it, she was going behind my back and saying some pretty nasty things to people claiming that I'd said them so I really couldn't trust her. I just miss the friendship I thought I had with her itms.

[Easties]

i think you are brave to try and make things up with her hun i really hope it works out as you have tried your best hun ""cutey""b

[essexgirl]

i think you've dont the right thing what ever the out come, if she dos'nt reply then you can stop the what if's and no that you gave it her more chance but i really hope she replys soon and you can both make up like others have said life is too short she sounds like she still cares by asking about you :crossfing for you

[Jess85]

Just an update - still no reply, so I'm taking it as a no then! Never mind

[Girlzmum]

Oh no - ah well, at least you can't think what if. You know tht the ball is in her court and it's up to her now.

[mumsiejudy]

At least you've tried.

[Netty]

What a shame - is there a chance she is away on holiday? Anyway, at least you have tried.

At our church, you have to attend a series of talks/workshop type thing before they agree to the christening, so there may still be time ...

[Jess85]

I'm not sure if she's on holiday actually Netty - there's a possiblity. I'll just keep waiting lol

[curlybird]

I really hope she replies to you Jess... even if she doesn't want to be godmother it would only be polite to at least let you know.

Hope you get the outcome you want xx

[Jess85]

That's what I thought curlybird, letting me know would be nice at least...
Still no reply and I don't think I will bother again, the ball's in her court now as they say lol, if she is like this then she isn't 'worthy' of being Zack's godmother anyway:unsure: