Have big dilema...

[Ellie]

Ok, being cryptic here but...
If someone told you something that you thought someone else should know, would you tell them?
Although you might think that they should tell the other party themselves you know that they won't
The someone else might be hurt that they had to hear it from you and not the person in question
On the other hand, if you (ie me!) don't tell them and they hear it from a random stranger will they be offended that you didn't tell them?
There's one for you to think about! :unsure:

[lizzie]

hey...................

Yea i think i'd tell the person 1st hand rather than hear it from some one 10 hand down

[smirnoff]

i would tell them!!

[Ellie]

Yeah, thin I prob should, is just it feels like it's not my place to tell them! Ooh, feel stuck in the middle! :ac39:

[EmmyC]

I'd think it might be best to tell, particularly if I thought they'd find out afterwards that I'd known. It might not be your place, but perhaps they'd understand your predicament and appreciate being told.

Difficult one though!

[EmmyC]

Guess it depends on how well you know them, too... good luck!

[Sarah]

Pray about it Ellie, see what answers you get. Not sure on this one, I might prefer to plead ignorant.

[Ellie]

Ok, have thought and prayed and think, yes should tell the person - would you all agree is better to tell something important face to face?

[lindy]

can you ask the person who should tell them to tell them or you will have to?

[MrTempleDene]

Perhaps you could drop hints to the person who should be told that the other person has something important to tell them.

Were you sworn to secrecy, or perhaps did the person who told you want you to do the dirty deed and s using you to get out of doing it themself?

[Easties]

all depends what it is but i hope you get it sorted one way or another xxxx

[ruthie]

A very hard one, especially if its life changing news. Would you want to know if you were them? Do they need to know? Its hard not knowing what you have to tell them, but I think if they are going to find out eventually from somewhere then to hear from a friend first is best.

[Katiequiggle]

I had a situation once with one of ds friends parents. I had a weird feeling one evening and new I had to phone her, she sounded really strange on the phone and I went round there to find she'd taken an overdose. Once I'd got her to hospital I found out that she was an alchoholic and a drug addict. I would never have known because although she is one of those constant drama people she is also an air hostess and always seemed pretty with it. Thing is that she used to pick my ds up from school when he went round to play with her ds and also another boy as all three of them were best friends. There had also evidently been trouble with a boyfriend being violent etc. She told me all of this in total confidence as she didn't want anyone else know what a mess she was etc etc. I thought long and hard about it for about 5 minutes after I left the hospital and went straight round to the other boys house and told his parents. In confidence of course, I was quite sure that they were not the type to spread gossip. I would never have forgiven myself if she had crashed her car due to drugs or drink when she was driving this other boy from school. The Mum was really grateful that I'd told her and from then on we used to invite the child of this mother to our houses rather than ours going to his. They've all moved on since and although they are at the same school they are in different classes and don't play at home iykwim.

I think that sometimes although you are breaking a confidence, if it really is in the best interest of all those concerned it's the thing to do.

Hope that helps.

Kate

[angeleyes]

I think it depends on how important it is, but i would most likely tell them to their face...

Good luck x

[Jess85]

Good luck with what you choose to do, I wouldn't know what to do tbh but I hope it all goes well hun x

[bikemad]

Id tell the person that needed too know personally-in fact I had too do just that about a year ago-wasnt nice but after the dust settled they thanked me for telling them.

Hth.

[Netty]

I think face to face, if it has to be done.

Good luck telling them.

[smirnoff]

good luck. I think if it was me i would want to know. Face to face is better, but not always the best.. kind of depends on what it is iykwim

[Furbee]

i think that you should say as long as it doent get their back up that you're interfering, then its best.

[Lemon]

Tricky one, and really depends upon what it is. It obviously has something to do with this other person, why are they not telling her themselves ? Sometimes you think you are doing a good deed but only end up being the baddy. So again, it would depend upon what it was. HTH x

[essexgirl]

i no excactly what ur going though dp told me somethink about his friend ,was ok at the time as i didnt no him then but now i know his wife and child we are all good friends and i hate knowing what i do but i no if i told him or his wife it would change there lifes and they are happy the way they are and he could'nt do anythink about it if he knew.
think would it hurt them and do they need to no hope what ever you decide it all works out but i'd tell them face to face good luck