Sleeping in the same bedroom??

[Dawnie12]

Ho Ladies,
My DD is 18 months old and sleeps in our bedroom with us. She sleeps most nights in her cot, occasionally she wakes and comes into bed with us. My dilemma is that we're expecting #2 in September and we are going to be a bit crowded if all 4 of us are in the same bedroom. I feel u8ncomfortable moving DD in a room on her own. I worry that she will feel left out if me, DH and the baby are together and she is all alone. What shall I do?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
Dawn, XX.

[wokkies]

try making her bedroom with all her favourite characters etc letting her choose the quilt cover wallpaper etc, lol, i am a fine one to talk littld ds is 21months old still in his cot and we have a bed in our bedroom for him which is gunna be moved to big ds's bedroom when he has tidied it, so maybe my advice is crap, lol someone will give u some good advice soon prob snofairy sarah, lol

[Netty]

I think wokkies' theory is correct - but can't say I know from practise!

We moved ds into his "big bedroom" before dd was due, wanted him out of the cot, before she needed to use it etc.

He was always quite good about going to bed, had to stay and read quite a few stories before he settled, but wasn't too bad.

When dd arrived, he was 2 yrs 2 months. It is only recently (now aged 6) that he complains that dd sleeps with us (she usually goes to sleep on our bed and then we move her) ... I know! .. I blame dh as when he was putting her to bed when she was little he used to let her on our bed so he could watch TV!!! While I read endless stories to ds, grrr!

Anyway ... I think he does feel left out that he is "upstairs" in the dormer bedroom while dd is on the first floor with us, so I understand what you mean about your dd feeling alone. Not sure what the answer is though.

[kathyhinsh]

Its still gd advice tho Christine hun.
I honestly cant think of anything 2 add

[Sarah]

What happened to my post??

[wokkies]

and we still have the bloomin cot, awkward hubby and big bob bed in our bedroom, lol

[Tess]

What happened to my post??
theres 2 posts of the same, one in 1-5 years and one in attachment parenting lol

[Easties]

cant really think of anything that hasnt already been said
but i would do it now as shes got a few months to adjust to it then and by the time #2 arrives hopefully she will be used to being in her own room and you never know she may enjoy having her own room

[Jen]

Bet she will love her own room, especially if she chooses the décor, make it really special for her. As someone has already said you still a few months for her to get use to the idea of having her own room….good luck hope all goes well

[Sarah]

I agree - let her help you prepare her new bedroom. All my babies went into their own room when they were only a few weeks old, they slept better and so did we!
Do it sooner rather than later so she doesn't feel left out. You could also consider putting her into a 'big girls bed' too so that she feels like a real big sister :D

[josie]

all children need to be moved into there own bedroom at some point. i was going to say the same as someone else has already said. try making her bedroom as inviting as possible. let her choose the colours she wants her room to be. maybe she will pick a funny colour. (lol) but let her choose. maybe some kind of stenciling or stickers for the walls? different lighting? a few shelves with colourful toys on. i think anythinks worth a try. and she will still be close to you. so you have no reason to worry! you never know after shes choose a few things for her new room. shell probally love it... just another idea if she has a dolls cot.(travel cot) for her dolls then u could try playing a game with her putting her dolly to bed at the same time she goes. just like you will be doing with your new addition.

[Dawnie12]

""cutey""b Thanks so much ladies.
I will follow your advice.
Dawn, XX.

[trogette]

all children need to be moved into there own bedroom at some point.

Why? All mine (apart from the youngest who is 18mo and co-sleeping) have moved to their own room(s) when they were ready, or more than ready in the case of dd1 and 2 cos we hadn't sorted their beds out 'til they were 5 and 6yo, lol.

If you have space and feel happy with the child staying with you then they can stay with you. There are ways round dealing with toddlers and new babies while co-sleeping/room-sharing, getting a futon so that the older child is nearby but lower down, or a single bed/cot-bed across the foot of the bed, or get a co-sleeper (www.babybay.de or http://www.armsreach.com/ for example) or a bigger bed (we used to have 2 4' beds pushed together)