need help getting DD into school

[KathrynS]

Have been having traum for the past few weeks with my DD, all the boys go into school fine, but Maisie is up early, screaming, shouting and throwing things and then when we get to school she refuses to go in, lots of running back to me, crying, going rigid, the class teacher is useless and wont help at all " there no problem" according to her.

In desperation, we bought her the toy dog she wanted and we got her in one day only, let her take dog to school, kiss it goodbye and then dog meets her again at hometime.

I know she dine when she at school, its just that its really distressing to see her like that every morning :(

Has anyone been through this and what sis you do? Or has anyone any ideas on what i can try, the school wont even attempt to help me, they have a teacher on the gate but they dont come to my aid so no point in attempting to ask them again

[lizzie]

The school should help , could you ask the head to have a word with the teacher might help

[Tess]

aww how old is she?

[smirnoff]

have been going through this for years with my ds.... have ended up taking him out of school at the moment. His problem was mostly due to being bullied.

Try playing with her about school, you will be amazed what you find out through play.

If you dont get any joy try going in with her for a morning, but be warned i found this really unhelpful as he then didnt want to go without mummy..

Health visitors can help if you have a good one..
bribery can help too.... if you are really good and go into school today with no fuss then you can have this sweet, if you dont then mummy will eat it.... and make sure you do in front of her. Worked for a bit with ds.....

I hope some of these help, if i can help any more let me know.......

Good luck.
I DO understnad what you are going through and it makes you feel SO awful, like the worst mummy in the world... but YOU ARE NOT and it will work out in the end (or so i keep being told....)

[KathrynS]

Have just realised i put DD instead of DS OOPS!! Thats what comes of a boozy lunch with my sister - slinks of embarresed

[Lemon]

Aww ... like Smirnoff said it can make you feel really bad !

My ds had a 'phase' in reception. I used to put loads of lipstick on then kiss a tissue with a little bit of perfume. I told him whenever he needed mummy I was right there with him, and there was a big kiss if he ever needed one ! It worked really well and he still remembers it two years later, so must have sunk in. Although it is so hard, do you upmost not to let her see you getting upset so she feels there is nothing to worry about. Good luck. xx

[KathrynS]

Now that sounds a great idea easypeasylemonsqueezy, he is the most sensetive of the older set, so maybe that wold work
Might give it a go in the morning and report back on how it went.

[Tess]

Aww ... like Smirnoff said it can make you feel really bad !

My ds had a 'phase' in reception. I used to put loads of lipstick on then kiss a tissue with a little bit of perfume. I told him whenever he needed mummy I was right there with him, and there was a big kiss if he ever needed one ! It worked really well and he still remembers it two years later, so must have sunk in. Although it is so hard, do you upmost not to let her see you getting upset so she feels there is nothing to worry about. Good luck. xx

aww lemon...thats a lovely thing to do:yes: ..will have to remember that x

[trogette]

sayin' nuffin' cos I home-ed ;)

[Lemon]

Now that sounds a great idea easypeasylemonsqueezy, he is the most sensetive of the older set, so maybe that wold work
Might give it a go in the morning and report back on how it went.

Put the tissue in his pocket ! Let us know if it works !!

[KathrynS]

Hiya
Well it worked this morning! I explained that he was taking mummy with him, and that when he felt sad he could just get in out and have a smell of the hanky.
Seemed to go in ok, the class teacher is a bit of a dragon to be honest,, and shouts a lot and she always telling me that B is much more advanced than L.

[Lemon]

Fabulous, glad it worked for you, did you put a kiss on it too ? If not, perhaps try that another day.

[smirnoff]

sounds like a good idea....

[Tanya]

thanks lemon, what a brilliant idea,

I will have to tell one of the mums at the school because she has the same trouble with her ds

[trogette]

I'm always so sad to hear of these children. :( If anyone wants to know more about home-education I'm available...

[linsay]

I'm very surprised that the teacher isnt helping.
I am teaching reception this year and have one little boy that has huge seperation anxiety and I work very closely with the mummy to help. I meet them in the playground and they have a farewell routine then I peel him off and give him a cuddle. He gets stickers on his chart for no tears and we have time out time to discuss his fears.
Most kids that cry when leaving their parents are generally fine once their parents leave and its the poor parents that are left distressed.

I'm pretty late with this reply but if you havent talked to the head - I would...hope it all truns out well.